i have a 4 year old daughter... she a very defiant and stubborn child... she is very agresive towards me, my fiance, friends and there kids.. she talks back when i tell her to do something. she tries to hit, kick and bit people, she fights with other kids, she destroys things when she is mad, she has tried to kick my fiance in the belly while she was pregnant, she steals, takes, hides, and destroys things that are not hers.. these are just a few of the behavior issues we have been dealing with.. no matter what we have tried it has not worked.. we have done the 123 magic.. we have tried putting her in the corner.. most times when we spank her she laughs at us.. we have taken her toys away.. right now we are doing a combination of the above.. she is still pushing the limits and being over all a defiant and stubern and thick headed child.. within the most recent months she has begun sleeping on her floor, prettending to be asleep, which she has gotten very good at almost to the point we cant tell if she is asleep or awake, she waits sometimes till 2 or 3 in the morning for us to go to sleep and then she gets up she turns the lights on in the house, she gets into the fridge, plays in the water which is her favorit activity, and she plays with her toys for hours.. when we catch her we put her back to bed.. but the cycle continues the next night..
we are going to have her tested for adhd as well..
Now i have noticed a few things.. she does have a condition called vertigo.. but the doctures are questioning that.. it could be migrains that are causing the dizzy spells.. her mother was diagnosed with bipolar and later that became became bipolar schitsoeffective disorder.. her mother probably had adhd but was never diagnosed with it.. im wondering if my daughter might have similar mental problems that might play into her behavioral issues..
Im at my wits end and im out of ideas how to deal with her... im prepared to do whatever it takes to get her under control. what would you suggest i do?? i need ideas and advice to build a effective plan of action thaqt she will respond to.