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My brother is a recovering addict and has been clean for 6 years. He has been through it all. Addicted to every kind of drug out there. After detox and some probation (long story) he got clean. It almost cost him his job and his wife and children.
It seemed like a good ending to a nightmare.
Our father is terminally ill and is in need of constant care.
My brother jumped at the chance to have him move in with he and his family. I am afraid I have an idea why.
My dad is on pain meds to control his pain. He is picky and complains about every med he has taken so there is a large selection in the cupboards from MScontin, oxycontin, Oxy IR, vicodin ES and vicodin 10mg. You name it he has tried it but complains it makes him sick etc....
Lately I have noticed my brother is on this "high" as far as his energy level, happy go lucky attitude that usually he is more sober and quiet. I am very scared he is helping himself to the meds my dad refuses to take. If I dare make this an issue he will just deny it and give me the "how dare you" sermon. I have noticed in the past he has been more the happy to go to the dentist for a toothache and it never ends from there. He probably goes back to the dentist at least 2 or 3 more times for the same problem saying "it still hurts" so that is what started me wondering a while back but NOW with Dad there and his array of pain meds, I am wondering and very worried as to what my brother is up to. How tempting is this for him? I know he would not risk losing his family again but then again, addicts are good at being in denial. Correct me if I am wrong. Advice please...anybody. Thanks
Karen G
Dan...
"used" to have an addiction to drugs but I know that it is a disease that you will have for life no matter if you stay clean or not. It doesnt go away. His wife believes him no matter what and so therefore I know not to even confide in her. My Dad is also someone I couldnt talk to about this because in his condition he would just freak out thinking that my brother may be on the verge of relapse and it would be a mess. But I will keep watch on every pill. I hope and pray I am wrong here but I am no fool. My brother is on this kick about Christmas, decorating the outside of his house beyond belief, cleaning out the garage, the basement, and we are talking about a man that usually spends his weekends relaxing in his favorite chair with remote control in hand. He calls and talks on the phone to me a mile a minute about nothing much!!!
This is not like him to all of a sudden, after working 50 hours a week, to want to induldge in such activities.
Thank you all once again. I will keep in touch to let you know how the situation looks. Hopefully it will be that I am just paranoid.
Karel