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by nan, Feb 02, 2001 12:00AM
I am now out of the house but, i have a little sister who just turned 16. She is being cared for by my mother who drinks nonstop. my mother is to teach my sister home school, because last year my sister failed out due to my mother saying she wants to kill herself all the time and for keeping my sister up sceaming in a drunken state. i am in no postion to care for my sister. My mother can not work but has inheired a great amount of money form a death in the family so does not have to work. my consern is the my mother is so drunk and on high blood pressure med.s the you cant even hold a conversation with her, and that she is not taking care of my sister. My sister just stays home and is not getting an education. My mother has a serious problem most of the time she will drink and take her blood pressure med. and sit in the dark in her room and wont come out for a day or two then when she does she will eat some thing, raise hell and yell and the drink some more. My quesion is i guess how can i help my alcoholic mother who is ruiing my littles sisters life. My mothers health is not very well. She cant even walk up our drivewwy very well. She cant hold conversations and cant remember the last five minutes. I heard that i could have her Baker acted, for puting my sister at risk. What can I do this is getting to be a real problem for everone?My mother does not look well at all. I am afraid for her safty and my sisters. Mother make unwise deciusions all the time thats causes huge problms finacialy and mentaly.
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by nd, Feb 02, 2001 12:00AM
Your situation is a hard one because your sister is at a difficult age.  You should be able to seek legal guardianship of your sister.  I understand that you may not be in a position, financially, to care for your little sister, however the courts may award a child support settelement to you for her care.  Also you could become your sisters foster parent in which case the state you reside in will help with the finances. In any case you need the support of your local child protective services agency. Please call them for your sisters sake. Good Luck

by CASEY, Feb 02, 2001 12:00AM
You can make a call to Child Protective Services through the Department of Health and Social Services, DSHS and report what is going on. You can encourage your sister to call the same office and ask for Family Reconciliation Services and ask for help. Also, call the school where your sister is supposed to be going and report this info to the counselor. Attendance at school is mandatory by law. If you get no response, call the principal. Good luck. She is lucky to have a sister like you.

by ChadB, Feb 03, 2001 12:00AM
Well this is a tough problem.  Your mother probably WON'T change, so therefore you must change the situation.  If you care enough do what these other good people adviced you to do.  That will probably help...but it won't cure the problem.  Question? Why can't your sister attend regular public school?  If she can, register her immediatly, you can register a new student anytime.  Try and get her away from that house too, or you'll be worried not only about your mothers health, but bad habits seem to rub off and spread like wildfire.  Seeing that your sister is 16, I think she can probably think for herself, so talk to her and she what she wants to do.  Tell her you are going to try and get her away from your mom, tell her everything you told us, she what she says.  Is she aware of what is going on?  Does she have a mental disability?  I am being honest, sincere and trying to help, so these questions are legit.  I wish you the best of luck, try and contact somebody, anybody.  In the meantime approach your mother with your concerns, but tell her your plans.  If she gets pissed at you, she might make it even harder for you to get your sister, money talks, and people with money have power.  Don't let her get the upper hand.  

Take Care

***@****

by The Dude, Feb 03, 2001 12:00AM
I had a type-o, I meant to say " DON'T TELL YOUR MOTHER YOUR PLANS"  Sorry about that.

Chad
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