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How do we not relapse when things go wrong?
by southernbelle, Nov 22, 2002 12:00AM
I'm going through such a rough time...I relapsed. My pain is TRULY intense, but I have to admit that if things weren't so bad right now I probably would have had the strength to "tough it out" and not take anything for the pain. But I'm facing the death of a dear, precious loved one and the EMOTIONAL pain is intense. What do you guys do to not relapse? I feel so sad right now. It hurts so bad to think of him in the ground. Gosh, he made the world a better place. Believe it or not, he was a drug counsleor/parole officer. He also worked at a boot camp for at-risk teens. He was so special. It just hurts so bad. What do you guys do to get through things like this? Love to all of you, mean it.
I'm sorry about your friend. I never know what to say about death...I'm sorry doesn't sound like much.
Just don't beat yourself up over this...you are human, and you will make mistakes. With the emotions you must be feeling, I don't blame you for relapsing. When you are ready to try again, you will know it. Until then, spend time with you friend and cherish the memories. I'll keep you two in my prayers.
To stop myself from getting more I locked myself in my room. This may/maynot help you. If I didn't have to see the drugs or the familiar surrounds that attached accompanied them, I was able to focus on something else: TV, cooking, this forum. It helped me, but everyone is different. Good luck!
HEY BIONIC BILL(BMAC) AND PIXI!!! WHERE ARE YOU??? Hopefully doing just fine! Talk to you all later.
Staycool!
Festertool
I don't worry about or even think about quitting for good any more. It does no good. I try to measure the quality of my life as a whole with the addiction being just a very small part of it. Refusing to take drugs and being miserable for it makes no sense to me. The people in the 12 step meetings are some of the most discontent and unhappy people I have ever met. I have never heard more emotional pain and more whining than I have there. My point is, that total uninterupped sobriety at any cost may not be worth the price. At the same time we cannot afford to get out of control with our drug use. It is a fine line that we walk. In the end all that is really important is that you can face the woman in the mirror.
Peace
Your're in my prayers,
Tracy
Tracy
To everybody else - I love you all. It's so nice to have this forum, isn't it? It's a way to connect and talk about something others have in common with you...Love and peace to all of you. The holidays are fastly approaching, so it's so important for us to check in here as often as we can and support each other. The holidays are hard for a lot of us. We'll miss loved ones, be stressed out, and generally need support like this.
The doc said something that I had thought on yesterday at the funeral, but had pushed to the back of my mind. What would he think if he knew my problem? Knowing him, he'd rush to my aid, help me as much as he could...but the bottom line is he wouldn't have wanted me to struggle with this. Thanks to all of you for being understanding.
First, as Mike said, if at all possible, stay busy - distract your mind, knowing that this is a roller coaster ride that has an end. We all have to remember to get off, not buy another ticket!
Second, hots tubs work pretty well for me for body aches.
I think "mood" is the key to success, and so the Thomas recipe has helped but today I had a pretty bad day, so I will keep taking the vitamins, knowing that time is on my side, tommorrow will be better.
Finally, force yourself to run through the laundry list of truly good things in your life, which there must be some. The Bible even says rejoice in tribulation. I hate that verse! But...
We are here for you, and we're not going anywhere. Tomorrow is a new day, with new hopes. And thank you for being here for us..
My roller coaster ride is just know starting to board. I know I am going to hate it, but I AM GETTING ON THE DAMN THING, and exiting for good when it is over - no matter what!
(God loves you, and He's a good God!)
I truly hope you feel better.
Your sign in - is SouthernBelle and not sure where you are in the South, but I was in Atlanta for 13 years before coming to San Diego. So here's two Jeff Foxworthy jokes to cheer you up - hopefully.
"You may be a redneck if you walk your son to school because you're both in the same grade!";-)
"You may be redneck if your front porch collapses and it kills more than three dogs" ;-)
Rex
Don't say relapse, just say you had a setback. And let me ask you this - "How can you have a setback without progress?". Right? A setback means that your WERE MOVING FORWARD and then you moved backwards temporarily.
Back on the horse you go - don't give up.
Rex
"You may be redneck if your mom walks out from the bathroom and says to you "Hey come 'ere - you gotta see this!"
Sorry...;-(
I just know if I keep on doing what I am doing, my face will be on the screen, with the familair tune in the background "Bad Boys - Bad Boys, whacha gonna do?"
And I will be looking down the barrel of a 44. The cops can't find the guys who broke into my neighbors car, but they'll be there (with a cameraman, no less) the second I am wasted in public. and then BOOM! I lose the bet, forever the butt of jokes.
Seriously, I have not done booze in 7 years and pot in 20. And the bean of hope for you is that once I was off of these guys, I NEVER missed them. What worked (for me now,) was prayer and a doc to lay it all out for me. When a doc says to you "Well, I think you'll be dead in less than a year", he gets your attention, especially when you have kids!
Forget the past and be even more comitted to quitting - make your comittments here if you need to and we'll help all we can.
Rex
Hope I don't offend anyone here with some of the MINOR details. I have to find that video and BURN it!!!!!
You might want put that tape and that memory on the shelf. You can watch it every time you think about getting drunk. It serves as a vivid reminder of what you never want to be.
Well, I saw the video before my sis left..and it's not pretty!! to me at least. I heard everyone laughing in the backround when I was just on the phone with her....I SWORE that I would NEVER drink again!!!! And now, she and her hubby want me and my family to come for a visit??? yeah right..like I'll ever show my face in public again...That tape is DEFINATELY a reminder NOT to party like that again!