The rehab just let me talk to my daughter. She had a bad weak, but is not complaining. She never has been a whiner. Last week she left the rehab.  She had to clean for disapline all this week from 6 am. to 9pm., she didn't complain about that either. She fiquired she did the crime, so she had to do the time.  She was allowed to talk to me when I called midweek for 5 min. She was really sick (bad bad cold, sounded terrible.) She said she didn't mind cleaning all day  (she doesn't mind work, it keeps her mind of her problems,but she really did not feel good. I felt bad for her. Tonight when I was allowed to talk to her for 5 minutes, I think I blew it. I told her about the friend that has about a week to live.  He was a heavy drinker, and is dying from pancreatic cancer. My daughter was close to him. He is alot older than her and kind of took her under his wing.  He and his girlfreind own a garden shop. My daughter worked for them when she was barely 13. They even let her earn money and saved it for her. ( took her with them to Austrailia on vacation when she was 17). She worked for Gary lobstering also. I'm not sure I should have told her, in her fragile state.  After I told her about Gary. She couldn't talk anymore, just crying. Our 5 minutes was up, I told her I loved her. The end of phone call.
  My question to all of you is should I keep our conversations only upbeat. Tell her the bad stuff later?? Now I feel just terrible for her.