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alcoholism
by taysmommy, Jan 21, 2007 12:00AM
hello all, im new to this forum, i a really worried about a friend of mine, she and i used to go out and drink all the time, but after i met my husband 4 years ago, ive been done with all that, i love her dearly and want to help her, lately her life has been a wreck, shes oded on pills, gotten beaten up by guys and girls, got a dui, basically her life is a disaster, she wants help, she came over today, drunk as ever, crying because her mom says shes an alchoholic, and honestly i dont have any idea what to say to her, i dont want to preach to her, although someone should, she says she wants help, but is not willing to enter treatment, what do you say to someone who you love so much that will help them? i know its all up to her to change, but she needs someone to talk some sense into her and im really at a loss here, any words of wisdom?
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She needs to hit a bottom and realize for herself that she needs to make a change.
I do suggest that you speak to her about possibly attending an AA meeting where three is a good chance she will hear something that hits home and to which she can identify. ALso, if you are truly concerned, maybe get yourself to an Al-A-Non meeting to learn more about the disease of alcoholism and learn how to live with an alcoholic in your life.
My name is Tara and I'm at ***@**** if you need to talk. Also, if your friend wants an unbiased opinion or someone to talk to her about the program, I am more than willing.
Best to you,
T.
Everyone's bottom is different. I'll pray that her bottom isn't that bad. There is hope. She can do it but not alone.
You go to meetings and you leanr to listen and listen to learn. I was lucky enough to hear what I needed to hear when I first started going.
I have a lot of yets.... like I've yet to be arrested or yet to get truly ill, but I lost myself and the will to go on and until I got sober and got to know me, not just the me that constantly felt sorry for herself, I didn't know what life was about.
I owe everything I am today inside to AA.
Tell her not to quit before the miracle happens. Tell her 90 meetings in 90 days is a great start and to get a spnsor right away.
Here is a website on AA and local meetings:
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org
Here is Al a Non:
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org
She can go to Al a no, although she should just stick with AA but you should not go to AA unless it's an open meeting. It's a private thing and unless you have a problem with drinking, you shouldn't go.
Good luck.