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alcoholic?
by mcdonaldwi, Feb 06, 2007 12:00AM
Husband has had a rough year! Lost both sisters to cancer-related conditions. I've seen signs of depression building for the whole year. He has complained of a myriad of physical, mental and emotional ailments throughout the past 12 months, went to the doctor for a variety of things. He went from being a positive person with a lot of interests, to having a completely negative outlook on the world and his own life. On top or maybe because of all the above, , in November he lost his job because he had more sick days than the company wanted.
Now that he has nothign to do he just sits at home. He continued to complain of various physical ailments, progressed to blaming smoking, now he believes it's not smoking and he's an alcoholic. He has always functioned in terms of going to work, etc. Perhaps all the recent events and loss of job have now brought this to a critical point?
My questions are:
1. how to help him, take him to his GP and lay it all out on the table? He feels he needs to check into a treatment facility, is that necessary or even an option?
2. he is not eating because he is nauseous/has no appetite, so he' pretty unsteady and can't leave the house to drive etc.
3. not sure he is really ready to help himself yet, What do I do? do I buy him alcohol or refuse to do that? just go on with my life as normally as possible until he is ready to do something?
Now that he has nothign to do he just sits at home. He continued to complain of various physical ailments, progressed to blaming smoking, now he believes it's not smoking and he's an alcoholic. He has always functioned in terms of going to work, etc. Perhaps all the recent events and loss of job have now brought this to a critical point?
My questions are:
1. how to help him, take him to his GP and lay it all out on the table? He feels he needs to check into a treatment facility, is that necessary or even an option?
2. he is not eating because he is nauseous/has no appetite, so he' pretty unsteady and can't leave the house to drive etc.
3. not sure he is really ready to help himself yet, What do I do? do I buy him alcohol or refuse to do that? just go on with my life as normally as possible until he is ready to do something?
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Would a therapist be a better option then a GP? Is he willing to see a therapist? Depression is a horrible debilitating problem. My husband is recovering alcoholic who is bipolar and when he does not take his meds, life is horrible. The person with the illness does not realize that they are hurting more then just themself.
It's hard to say if he is an alcoholic based of the information you give. He obviously has something going on. Do not buy him alcohol. You can't stop him from buying it himself though. You are not responsible for his behaviour.
I am sorry that you are in this situation. It's a difficult one to be in. Famiy counseling may be beneficial for both of you.
Good luck
I want him to start with the GP becasue he also has high BP and wants to quit smoking. And has had insomnia meds and anti-depression meds already prescribed. It may be these things have also made matters worse. So I am hoping that the GP may refer to a therapist in the same med group! I also wonder if there is a medical connection due to the meds he is receiving, or if it truly is a depression situation brought to a head by all the trials he's had this year. So I'm thinking it's best to eliminate any medical causes before starting on the mental health path.