I am in a similar situation, except my boyfriend refuses inpatient therapy. I think suboxone is okay, but it seems that all opiate treatments are bandaids from my point of view. I'm sure people who have been on the other side would have a different view, and it is pretty hard for those of us who have never experienced withdrawal to relate. I think they are bandaids that are probably necessary though. Just be sure he is in therapy and doing everything under doctor supervision. It might take years to get completely free of drug dependency (because he will be dependent on the bandaids for a long time), but if he is committed to getting better, other people have been successful. =)
So from seeing my boyfriend on subutex (which I think is similar to suboxone), it seemed pretty good. Once he got on the right dose, he seemed very normal and everything was pretty good, but then he stopped taking it because he said he felt he was needing more and more each day and it scared him to feel that draw and subtle high that it gives. HE switched to methadone and now things are a real mess.
I think if your boyfriend is actively in rehab (especially inpatient), you should considering giving him a second chance. It sounds like he is serious about changing things since he acted so quickly and definitively to get help. Good for him! My boyfriend has been floundering around for 5 years. I am getting fed up, especially since we have a 2 year old daughter.
Good luck! Feel free to email me and vent anytime. It would be nice to have someone to share shoulders to cry on now and then. No one in my life is able to understand what it feels like to be where I stand in this. Most people in my life are very frustrated that I haven't walked away yet. My email is ***@****.
All the best and good luck!
Rehab might just be the ONE thing that works! I would give him the benefit of the doubt right now, because this is a HUGE step , and one in the right direction I might add. When he is done with rehab, THEN you can put in place another deal with him, "Do it EVER again, and I mean even one tiny time, and your outta here buddy!"
That would be my plan. Unless he has gone to rehab before and he treated it like it was a joke when he got out, then I might do some seriuos thinking.
Good luck Honey, we are all here for you!
Rebecca~..~
Well remember this, he is my B/F and I suspected after a few months into the relationship. Mostly disbelief and when I confronted him, he knew I knew or suspected and that is when he decided to taper unbeknown to me. I gave him an ultimatum, to kick this in the ass or I was out of here. The next day he checked himself into rehab. And now we are on day 9. He says he owes this to himself, his family, me and my kids. Supporting him, has been a challenge.
So yeah, he is in rehab. Started Suboxone today. Feel optimistic but super scared. Need help being strong.
How long has this behavior been going on? You may have said in another post but I'm not sure. Naranon folks have been through it and have "hit bottom". I do know that if a person truly doesn't want to quit, they won't. At least they have to "want to want to". Is he saying he wants to quit for you or so that he doesn't lose his family? Personally, I would leave and then offer him solutions from afar. I can understand wanting to keep your family together though. Whatever you decide, I wish you all the best. I wish he would go to rehab. It is his life thats on the line. Just remember you didn't make him start drugs and you can't make him quit. He is responsible for both. I think your intuition is talking to you and you know what to do. Listen to it. You sound like a wise woman.
Blessings to you