street drugs,street life. a whole lot diff. then the peeps in here,,thank god although i did read a story not long ago where a cop kidnapped his dr and took him to a drive thru pharmecy and made him write a scrip for oxys.turned out bad,,cop was shot
can I tell you a little story:
When I was into my Heroin days I was at a dope house......while there a guy who had stolen from this Heroin dealer walked into the dope house to talk to him. He intent was to buy more dope on a loan......The dealer still pissed about monies owed got pissed and had two of his boys beat the hell out of him....I was now in the middle of doing my dope and then this same guy came back begging again. I remember his face looking a lot different his nose seemed to be in a different place on his face his eyes were very swollen but he came back to the dealer again only this time begging for more dope on credit.he was backed into a closet while taking another beating when we heard two gun shots...none of us would look that way.......
all we wanted to do was do our dope...................................
Your EX crack addict husband thinks about crack #1 getting it smoking it and enjoying the the life of other crack heads, (the blonds that are there too) can you imagine what they will do to sustain there high........
Heroin, Crack and Meth are the most addictive substances around today and people will do anything to get it, anything. Family members will all suffer they are the addicts victims....
Parents and children will try to rationalize whats happening and say my (son or daughter, wife or husband) isn't the bad one its the other dope heads that are at fault......
Your daughter who runs to his side because she loves him that really effects me today...
Addicts live in insanity, there decisions are insane, the people they hang with are insane, there relationships are insane!
The hammer to the head and the innocent victim driving him to the dope house are very normal in the insane world of the addict, it is just part of there lives...
He needs to go into a minimum 6 month rehab with strong after care, drug testing, a drug conselor on an outpatient basis.....
This will be hard and maybe harsh to you but he needs to loose the privlidge of your daughter until he goes through this........
Your daughter is a victim and will suffer in the long run, you need to protect your daughter from him.....and remember what will he do for his daughter?
Is getting clean and getting away from Crack and the insanity of drugs worth his daughters love???????/
Wow...that story you told me sounds SO much like the places my ex has gone.....I remember back when I was still married to him, he'd disappear for days at a time....then come home all beat up, dirty, I tried and tried to help him, but he didn't want it. Then, the final straw came when I was alone with the kids one night, and our door got kicked in and 2 of the biggest black guys you ever saw said: "WHERE"S JESSE!?!?!?!" Apparently he robbed them and they were looking for him. They didn't do anything to us, though....I got very lucky I suppose------but it was then that I left him. That night, to be exact. I got the kids, and we went to my mom's.....I got the divorce soon after.
Beach, I know what you mean about my daughter.....personally, I think she is an 'enabler' to him, and I have told her that many times. But she is 18 so legally I can't stop her from seeing him. She has such a huge heart, and she loves him so much. When he calls her, crying that he 'needs' her (YUCK) it just makes me SICK the way he manipulates her. I mean, SHE is the kid, for the love of God! And its more like SHE is the parent, and HE is the kid in their relationship. She wants to 'fix' him....and she just can't......She told me once that she remembers her 'daddy' the way he WAS....so many years ago, a big strong man, who used to swoop her up and put her on his shoulder and take her to the park, or out for ice cream. But that was back when he was clean, and she was only 4 or 5 at the time. She told me that she hopes she'll have that dad back one day. It breaks my heart when I see HER hurting. She IS an enabler....I just don't know when she will finally tell him ENOUGH.
Your daughter is 18 and probably does think she can fix him with love....
This is a fact of life that I know for sure nobody can help an addict to recovery!
This is the really crazy thing the only different about addicts is when the light pops on to recovery......
trama, tradgety, crash and burn, sick and tired of being sick and tired there are a million different things that trigger this light to go on.....
Some cases are very hard cases like me, decades went by before my light came on.......so I know exactly how you feel......
hang in there.......