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A BITTERSWEET 4TH OF JULY :(
by tink1127, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
for those of you who dont know, my Grandma was diagnosed wiht cancer this past fall. After chemo we were told that the cancer had spread so rapidly it is INCURIBLE. the dr.s expected her to live no lnoger than this past spring. Well i took my girls over to see her about 10 days ago and she was up and talking, she was even doing dishes!!! she made a big deal about us coming to my aunts house for the 4th of July. every year my aunts has a HUGE cookout and MY ENTIRE FAMILY COMES....i have 7 Aunts and Uncles, 24 first cousins and too mnay 2nd cousins to count anymore.
So yesterday my grandpa and grandma were there and my grandma seemed almost "comatose"(sp?) she could barely talk or open her eyes and was there in a wheelchair. my aunt had discourged her from coming, but my grandpa insisted she go, its what she wanted... well after the firewoks last night, my cousin went over to check on her and she HAD PASSED AWAY!!!! my emotions are very torn today. i'm happy that she died peacefully and was able to make it until the WHOLE FAMILY was togeter ONE LAST TIME WITH HER.... but i will miss my grandma. I know she is in a better place right now and we will be having the funeral this weekend. She was a very strict Catholic and will have a Ctholic funeral.
Please everyone keep my family in your prayers during this time of grief....
luv ya,
TINK :)
So yesterday my grandpa and grandma were there and my grandma seemed almost "comatose"(sp?) she could barely talk or open her eyes and was there in a wheelchair. my aunt had discourged her from coming, but my grandpa insisted she go, its what she wanted... well after the firewoks last night, my cousin went over to check on her and she HAD PASSED AWAY!!!! my emotions are very torn today. i'm happy that she died peacefully and was able to make it until the WHOLE FAMILY was togeter ONE LAST TIME WITH HER.... but i will miss my grandma. I know she is in a better place right now and we will be having the funeral this weekend. She was a very strict Catholic and will have a Ctholic funeral.
Please everyone keep my family in your prayers during this time of grief....
luv ya,
TINK :)
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if you need me girl just call or write...
PRAYERS FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
R2R
luv ya,
tink :)
It is fantastic, and don't take that in the wrong way, that your grandma was able to be with her whole family in her last hours. Most of us can only wish to be surrounded by our loved one's when we pass. My mom, due to the quickness of her death, didn't have any of her children with her. She only had a couple of loved one's near her the day she died.
I will be thinking of you today and will have you and your family in my prayers.
TINK---Prayers all day for you...
R2R
since her cancer my Grandpa's health has also gone downhill rather quickly. they've been married over 55yrs and iys very common in a situation like this after one passes the other usaully passes soon after. He will be 80yrs old in November and we hope he will make it to his 80th B-day.
thanks to all of you for your kind words and prayers....
luv ya,
tink :)
(what a gift she had in your grandpa, tho! i just read your last post, and that part - that he INSISTED - is so great, that he knew...)
anyway Tink, God bless.. and i'm very sorry for your loss..
warmly,
mj
OMG I'm sooo sorry about your grandmother... that must've been awful. When you sent this post and when I was reading it, it sent chills down my spine. That's exactly what happened with my grandmother at my neice's birthday party 11 years ago. I was 8 months pregnant with my middle child and I couldn't hardly move so I didn't go to the party. My mother called me later on that afternoon and said she had passed away at the party. At least you went and got to see her for the last time. I beat myself up all the time, if I had went, I would've been able to see her for the last time and given her a hug before she had passed away. She was so eaten up with diabetes that if she hadn't had the heart attack at the party, they had a scheduled amputation on one of her feet a couple of days after the party. God had taken her and I'm so glad that she didn't have to suffer anymore.
OMG I'm makin' this about me. I'm so sorry sweetie. She is definitely in a better place and God let her live long enough to see everyone at the same time before she passed. If you need me I'll be here on and off all day. I'm turnin' my yahoo messenger on if you wanna chat. God is definitely taking care of her and now she's not in any pain. You will one day be with her forever but right now your grandmother wants you to live a long happy life I'm sure. I'm so sorry for your loss tink :( How many children did she have?
Luvs ya lots and big hugz,
Joanne.
I am deeply sorry for your loss. I am sure she was a wonderful woman. Bless you and your family...
Stay Strong...
Lisa
uuugggghhh....My crazy mom is here, she came up for the 4th and now will stay for the funeral. It was her mother who passed. BUT the had a very "strained" relationship my entire life. I feel for my mom right now in her time of grief, yet its hard to really have much sympathy for her. Her and I also have a strained relationship and my older sister hasnt talked to her on single time in over 15 yrs. yesterday my mom acted as though i was "invisible" and focused, as always, like my girls were the only ones here. she called me this morning to tell me about my grandma (but i already knew last night) and asked to talk to the girls and that she wanted to be the one to tell them about their grandma!!! i said I WOULD TELL THEM (i didnt want them to hear all the details) well she just called and told them ALL THE DETAILS!!!! WTF???? i will never "get" her i swear. so LIKE ALWAYS the funeral will probably be a very "uncomfortable" time for my sister and i....
luv you all,
tink :)
don't let yourmothr make anythinguncomfortable. you stay strong. do what YOU have to do for YOU and your girls. let her presence there be irrelevant!
your friend Cathy
In reading your account I was struck by the fact that your grandmother's last act was to teach you, by example, how to die...with dignity...with grace...and, with family.
A great lady, to be sure !
GEORGE
thoughts and prays to you and your family! tell your grandma to say hi to my mom her name was lynda.