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hondacr250

by RBC3, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
Tags: Addiction
Hey I was wondering how things are goin with you ? I tried to email you did you get it ? let me no xxx keri
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by hondacr250, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
To: not so good
the PD called my stoner S.O and he told them where I was at (rehab) and they called, and verified I am OUTPATIENT, threatened S.O with hindering an investigation.  What is so sad, ALL the attorneys I called wont do anything to "help" till I am charged.  Both I have talked to said "they dont have a strong case, or one at all and they are wanting you to come in and make it for them", and "all you will get is probation" (no priors).  

I am so tempted to check into another hospital, for my tendacies I have now developed resulting from all this.

by peekawho, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
Who will watch your children?  Your stoner S.O.?  
Hopefully you have some other family member available.  



by hockyfan73, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
To: hondacr250
Sorry your S.O. fell for the trick.  if you guys are married he can't give any information against you...even if he wants to.  Oh sure...he can be THREATENED with it...but it won't hold water.  

Ignore the police. I am sorry they are fixating on you when there are killers and hatemongers out there to worry about.

Sorry I missed an earlier post...How old are your kids?  Any thing they may say may also be inadmissable as well, depending on their age.

Good luck

Allen

by hondacr250, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
To: hockey and other interested
I finally found attorney who listened, and agreed to let me retain him, and possibly get them NOT to file charges or whatever.  I meet him in the morning at 0800 with $500.00.  I am skipping a car payment to do this, but think it is worth it.  ALL the attorneys I spoke to today said the same thing, the PD is NOT your friend.  They are not worried about me or anything about me, they are worried about tying up their case, in a neat little package to the DA.  

Why are they so fixated on me?  They obviously know I am an addict in recovery.  I wouldnt wish ANY addiction on anyone.  They make people do things they would never do otherwise, being under the control of the drug.  

I am trying to focus on cleaning house, and finding things to sell on E-Bay so I can stay afloat.  thanks for listening, and caring.  I means so much since I really have noone to confide in right now.  

by hondacr250, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
To: PD call
And how the SGT worded it to S.O. stoner was "I will charge you with hindering a criminal investigation if you dont stop lying to me" when he told him I was in the hospital.  

Needless to say, the house it spotless

by comeoutswingin, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
Don't check into another hospital...you don't need the added stress right now. Just try and focus on facing this....Just imagine how much easier your life will be after you deal with this (you are gonna have to sooner or later anyway)...Just do what the attorney says and try and make it through for better or worse....then after it's over you can rest easy.

by addict10, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
Keep listening to hockeyfan and in a few months youll be setting in jail wishing you would have just taken care of this,,I hope your children arent with you when you get arrested cause then THEYRE in the system.Of course if you look long enough youll find a lawyer to take your money. You"ll probably spend a grand to find out it could all have been solved by taking responsibility instead of blaming your kids,the dr and the police

by addict10, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
To: hocky
You need to learn the laws if your going to give advice,a spouse cant be MADE to give info on their spouse. They can give it voluntarily all day long

by hondacr250, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
To: addict10
I am not blaming anyone except myself.  I dont trust cops, never have, never will.  Attorneys either for that matter, but I think they are the better of the two professions.  If they had enough evidence to warrant an arrest, they would have already.  I dont believe for a minute that cop that keeps calling is just calling "concerned for my welfare".  He is concerned about making a case.  I had several attorneys tell me the same thing today.  If I wasnt acceptting responsibility, I wouldnt be taking the proactive steps I have taken so far.  I went into rehab BEFORE knowing any of this.  Yeah, it was a possibility, but so is allot of other things in life.  

I also never blamed my children for anything, just disrespect towards me.  I have tried to over compensate (material wise) for their biological dad being a complete loser that doesnt even send them a birthday card, Christmas card, nothing.  I have good kids that are straight A students and are athletic.  I am sure I am check your posts and pick them apart if I wanted to.  I am trying to look for the good in life right now.  I dont have to "confess all" to atone for my transgressions in my past.

by hondacr250, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
To: anyone that cares
That SGT also invaded my privacy in calling the hospital (psyc) and getting my confidential information.  then he called S.O to try to intimidate him into telling him what he wanted to hear.  My records were marked NOT to be given to ANYONE, and according to the hospital administrator of records, WITHOUT a court order, they WOULD NOT give this info.  He didnt even know the name of the place till S.O told him, it is 50 miles from here. and 10 minutes AFTER he was given the hospital name, he called S.O back and said "STOP THE B.S I know the days she has treatment and when she was discharged!"    He called up there, lied out his teeth, to get my detailed private patient information, so he could try to intimidate me into a confession.  Yeah, I just want to confess all to someone like that, and that represens law, truth, integrity and honesty?

I refuse to be cohursed into submission.   My attorney will let me know if and when there is a warrant, that is what I am paying them for.  I am making ammends on my own terms, and self hanging isnt one of them

by addict10, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
People who break the law usually dont trust the cops. Would you trust them if your child was missing though,or you needed assistance,maybe cpr at the site of a wreck? Of course the cop is trying to make a case,thats his job,,to arrest lawbreakers,all laws. I never picked apart your posts, I just pointed out that getting this cleared up takes you and your CHILDREN out of jeoprady of being put in the system and you can go back thru any post you like but you wont find me hiding from anyone.I see dads been added to the blame list,, again,gl in whatever you do

by hockyfan73, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
To: addict 10 and hondacr250
Actually I know the laws pretty well...at least that's what they told me 8 GODDAMN YEARS AGO WHEN I PASSED THE BAR!!!.  Spousal privilage is a two way street and cannot be revoked by either party.  Anyone who watches Law and Order reruns should know this.  

To anyone else...if you have an issue that your spouse is aware of, because of the legal nature of marriage, they cannot do anything to harm or hinder you in the way of an investigation.  Any testimony is useless, any information they give the police is moot, and anything that the police discover due to the information or confession of a spouse is rendered inadmissable to a trial.  

Whoever said that the Police are not your friend is correct.  They cannot make deals with you...only the DA can make a deal, and then they can only make it with your representative (lawyer) whether it is the one that is appointed by the court or the one you have hired.  You must be represented and informed for the legal machine to work properly.  (God Bless America)

and before ADDICT 10 wants to go down this partictular road...I am NOT giving advice, I am simply stating the way it is.  I do not give legal advice to anyone on any forum.  Never have, never will.  I have SUGGESTED many things to many people on many forums.  None of which has ever caused harm to anyone.  I will answer any question...most of which I answer with "get a local lawyer...I am in California...things might be different concerning specific details."  (although spousal privilige is a federal statute and applies pretty much the same every where.)

But for someone who is coming to a forum...that is just trying to get help...and is making those strides succesfully...I have nothing but praise for them, and simply ask a few questions to make sure that they have all their 'ducks in a row'.  So that they might be supported as best they can.  After all...who wants to go to jail?

Allen

by addict10, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
one good thought huh,you can read this post again above

by sterling_silver, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
To: hockyfan
Nice post dude.Your a good man.

by hondacr250, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
To: Hockey and addict full of static
I dont have to defend myself to u.  I also am not "hiding" from anyone, never have, never will.  I am refusing to incriminate myself, like anyone else with 1/2 a brain would do.  Everyone has their Constitutional Rights, and choosing to invoke  mine are my prerogative.   Breaking the law in the past doesnt make me a career criminal or person that constantly blames others. mentioning my X was not blaming him or anyone else.
  You dont know me, therefore whatever your opinion is of me or my post doesnt concern me.  

Hockey, thanks so much for your support and intelligent, well informed opinion.  I have talked to numerous well educated people today concerning my situation, and your words of wisdom were right on the money!   I am so thankful there are people of your caliber on here.  I read your post several times, and hope your words reach many in crisis and in need of a real friend.  Judge a tree by the fruit it bears.

by addict10, Jul 05, 2007 12:00AM
Thats way to much typing for someone who isnt concerned

by hockyfan73, Jul 06, 2007 12:00AM
To: anyone who wants to take this bet
I wonder if Addict 10 will try to get the last word in...again...and again...as usual?

by lonote, Jul 07, 2007 12:00AM
liladdict better watch out, his girlfriend will come out and tell you off like she did me. These so called know it alls out need to be put in check now and again, but when you do becareful, cuz you'll be the bad guy. They like to twist it around and take no responsibilites and me forexample call you a bunch of names.. When she doesn't know you from Adam. Careful Girl!!  lolololol. I love it
when someone is bold enough to speak their mind. My hat goes off to you.
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