My son, a 7 year old boy was just discharged from a mental hospital. (diagnosis: ADHD, ODD, and Passive aggressive behavior) We will begin therapy soon, until then,(2 weeks) could you please give me a bit of advice about how I can handle his difiant behaviors. I do not want to yell, spank, or REACT in a way to encourage this new way of him getting what he wants. I cannot leave him in a room alone because he will destroy it within minutes. If I tell him that he cannot do something, he demands a reason, I have tried to tell him "because that is the rule" or "because that is dangerous", but he rebutes everything.(with anger) He cannot be trusted to use the bathroom for even a couple of minutes in private because he smears his feces all over himself and the walls. I feel that he is aware of his behaviors (since his discharge)and uses them to get a response out of me. I can't wait to start therapy so that we both can get through this tough time. Incedentally, he is a twin, (his sister is normal)he was born 10 weeks early, and the twins have an older brother (11 months older). I am trying to be patient and understand, but the other 2 children see his behavior, and they see his special attention. I wonder if I am encouraging this by not reacting with my traditional yelling, but I realize that yelling and reacting to his previous actions were partially to blame for his behavior prior to the hospital.
Please give me some hope for a normal family life.
Catch