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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
my 14yr old brother going for a #2 in his pants
Answered by
Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D. - Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Crisis Intervention
Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
This forum is for questions and support regarding child behavior issues such: Child Discipline (behavior management), Normal Child Development, Parent-Child Communications, Social Development
my 14yr old brother going for a #2 in his pants
by charliez5, Jul 02, 2002 12:00AM
im a 16yr old student studying at 6th form college (highschool) in the uk. my younger brother is 14 and he has had troubles getting to the toliet in time. last year he stopped going in his pants but just recently its started again. hes very small as he had bad heart problems as a baby and is bullied verbally at school butmy parents have been breaking up for the last 9yrs but only got devorced 2 yrs ago. they are constantly changing thier minds, they live together for a bit and we are all happy then they have a huge fight (usally over something that happened in the past) and my dad leaves for a while. hes been at home for 6mths now but they started to fight again a while ago. my mum gets so stressed that she shouts at us (me and my bro alot) and even at my friends.i even have a hint that my boyfriend (we were going out for 7mths) got sick of her shouting and broke up with me. he didnt give a valid reason except he was under pressure. im really worried about my brother, i accept that i cant do anything about my parents, they can mess up thier own lives but im worried about my brother. i have had a really hard time, (ive recently been told that i cant have children and i have diabetes and a bad allergy to silicon.)but i know that they dont mean it and you have to get on with things. my brother isnt the same he constantly sides with my dad which really upsets my mum, adam (my brother) doesnt realise if he wants to have a semi- peacefull life he has to just agree with her, it makes things a lot easier but all he does is argue all the time. please help im worried about him
Doctor's Answer
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Jul 02, 2002 12:00AM
, Jul 02, 2002 12:00AM
It's likely that the recurrence of your brother's encopresis is related to the emotional stress you describe. In any case, Adam requires professional help via therapy. If you are able to exert some influence with your mom or your dad to encourage one of them to seek therapy for Adam, you would be giving him a big assist. When parents are experiencing the sort of marital discord you describe, they often aren't sufficiently aware of the damage this can cause for their children. You have a sound perspective for someone so young and, even so, you might find it helpful also to have someone with whom you can speak about the strains the whole family is experiencing.
