My 9 year old is very irresponsible. We don't give her a lot of responsibility, but what little she has, she's careless with it. When we tell her to get ready for bed, she doesn't think, "ok, I have to brush my teeth, change my clothes, get the bed ready, turn out my light, get into bed." We have to tell her every little detail. She doesn't like to brush her teeth, she doesn't want to take baths...she's just difficult. Her sisters, 6 and 3, are the total opposite. We don't have to tell them to brush their teeth, they just want to do it. They love baths. I don't understand. Aslo, my 9 year old is a whiner. Nothing is ever fair to her! She pitches a fit to get the bigger cup, or the glass with more in it. She wants more of EVERYTHING, and whines if she can't get it. She takes advantage of us. If we allow her to watch a movie, she wants to watch two. If we say no, she pouts, whines and cries. Finally, when she eats, she makes a bigger mess than my other two combined! She's unbelievable when it comes to eating habits. And clutter...she has to keep candy wrappers, grocery receipts, any other paper, odds and ends, ect. We have to clean her bookbag out everyday when she's in school. If we don't, she will keep potato chip bags for weeks at a time before moving them to her "collection" stash. I have to secretly throw those things away. If you walked in my house now, you'd never know that we had three kids. My wife and I are immaculate. Our house, bodies, teeth, cars, etc. stays clean. But not my 9 year old, if it wasn't for us, she would be nasty. Tattling...God! We are losing it!