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4YR GIRL W/ DISCIPLINE
I HAVE A 4YR OLD DAUGHTER WHO IS A TWIN AND ALSO HAS AN OLDER SISTER THAT'S 7. MY MAIN CONCERN IS SHE HAS BEEN HAVING ACCIDENTS (BOTH)IN HER PANTS DAILY, SOMETIMES 3-4 TIMES A DAY. OFTER WE CATCH HER IN A "STOOPING" POSTION LIKE SHE IS TRYING TO HOLD A BM. SHE GETS IN TROUBLE EVERYTIME. WHEN I PUT HER ON THE POTTY SHE DOES NOT GO. I AM NOT SURE IF SHE IS SCARED IT WILL HURT, IF
IT IS BECAUSE SHE IS TOO BUSY, OR IF THERE IS A TRUE MEDICAL PROBLEM. SHE IS A VERY ACTIVE CHILD AND WE HAVE MAJOR DISCIPLINE
PROBLEMS WITH HER DAILY. SHE HAS AN ANGER CONTROL PROBLEM. SHE
WILL LASH OUT WITH HER SIBLINGS OR BE DESTRUCTIVE WITH THINGS IN THE HOUSE. SHE DOES THIS WHEN SHE DOES NOT GETS WHAT SHE WANTS.
I'M REALLY OF TIRED OF SPANKING AND YELLING DAILY. I AM WORRIED ABOUT HOW THIS WILL AFFECT HER LATER IN LIFE. I NEED TO KNOW WHO
TO TURN TO FOR HELP. AS FAR AS SCHOOL GOES, I HAVE NO DISCIPLINE
PROBLEMS AS OF YET. SHE OCCASIONALLY (VERY SELDOM) HAS BATHROOM ACCIDENTS AT SCHOOL. I REALLY SUSPECT SHE HAS ADHD. SHE HAS THE CLASSIC SYMPTOMS BUT SHE IS TOO FOR TREATMENT FROM WHAT I HAVE BEEN TOLD. SHE IS NOT A CHILD WHO WILL TELL ABOUT A PROBLEM. SHE USES PHYSICAL MEANS OF COMMUNICATING ESPECALLY IN ANGER. SHE IS A VERY LOVING CHILD AND WE TRY TO REWARD HER AND GIVE HER ATTENTION,BUT SHE WILL TURN IN AN INSTANT AS SOON AS SOMETHING MAKES HE ANGRY. SHOULD I SEE A NEUROLOGIST? PLEASE COMMENT. THANKS SO MUCH FROM A VERY FRUSTRATED AND CONCERNED MOTHER.
IT IS BECAUSE SHE IS TOO BUSY, OR IF THERE IS A TRUE MEDICAL PROBLEM. SHE IS A VERY ACTIVE CHILD AND WE HAVE MAJOR DISCIPLINE
PROBLEMS WITH HER DAILY. SHE HAS AN ANGER CONTROL PROBLEM. SHE
WILL LASH OUT WITH HER SIBLINGS OR BE DESTRUCTIVE WITH THINGS IN THE HOUSE. SHE DOES THIS WHEN SHE DOES NOT GETS WHAT SHE WANTS.
I'M REALLY OF TIRED OF SPANKING AND YELLING DAILY. I AM WORRIED ABOUT HOW THIS WILL AFFECT HER LATER IN LIFE. I NEED TO KNOW WHO
TO TURN TO FOR HELP. AS FAR AS SCHOOL GOES, I HAVE NO DISCIPLINE
PROBLEMS AS OF YET. SHE OCCASIONALLY (VERY SELDOM) HAS BATHROOM ACCIDENTS AT SCHOOL. I REALLY SUSPECT SHE HAS ADHD. SHE HAS THE CLASSIC SYMPTOMS BUT SHE IS TOO FOR TREATMENT FROM WHAT I HAVE BEEN TOLD. SHE IS NOT A CHILD WHO WILL TELL ABOUT A PROBLEM. SHE USES PHYSICAL MEANS OF COMMUNICATING ESPECALLY IN ANGER. SHE IS A VERY LOVING CHILD AND WE TRY TO REWARD HER AND GIVE HER ATTENTION,BUT SHE WILL TURN IN AN INSTANT AS SOON AS SOMETHING MAKES HE ANGRY. SHOULD I SEE A NEUROLOGIST? PLEASE COMMENT. THANKS SO MUCH FROM A VERY FRUSTRATED AND CONCERNED MOTHER.
YOUR SITUATION IS VERY SIMILAR TO MINE, I TOO HAVE A 4 1/2 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WHO CONSTANTLY PEES IN HER IN HER PANTS, BUT WILL POOF IN THE TOILET. SHE TOO IS VERY LOVING NORMALLY, BUT WILL YELL AT ME AND HER DAD AND GET VERY ANGRY WHEN SHE DOESNT GET HER WAY OR WHEN WE TRY TO CORRECT HER. I THINK ALOT OF HER ANGER HAS TO DO WITH HER DAD, HE WAS RAISED BY PARENTS WHO YELLED AND SPANKED AND I THINK HE TREATS HER THE WAY HE WAS TREATED AS A CHILD. ME, ON THE OTHER HAND AM MORE OF A TALKER, I TRY TO EXPLAIN THINGS TO HER, I TRY TO MAKE HER UNDERSTAND THAT HER ACTIONS HAVE CERTAIN CONSEQUENCES INSTEAD OF GETTING ANGRY AND YELLING. THIS WHOLE POTTY TRAINING THING JUSTHAS ME AT MY WITS END THOUGH. IM SO AFRAID THAT WHEN SHE STARTS SCHOOL IN SEPTEMBER SHE WILL PEE IN HER PANTS AND BE MADE FUN OF AND I DONT WANT THAT FOR HER BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. HAS ANYTHING WORKED FOR YOU?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
You are correct in thinking that evaluation may be required. There's no indication that she needs to see a neurologist, but sje should see a child psychiatrist or child psychologist. The problems with soiling may not be related to her emotional problems, though they probably are to some extent. Be sure that she is not constipated - impacted bowels are the chief reason for encopresis in children.
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