My daughter will be 5 this Oct.  She started a K-4 program in a private school last year when she was just turning 4. I chose a private school due to smaller classroom sizes.  We knew she would have to repeat the K-4 program this year due to her age.Here is where the problem is - she doesn't like her teacher & the teacher doesn't seem to like her because she is not an "easy" child.  I know my daughter senses this & in class is disruptive, stubborn, & very defiant when told to do something she doesn't want to do. When she gets in trouble at school she must also do 10 min. of "time out" (adult chair)at home & loses tv time for the evening.  I want her to understand that her bad behavior at school is not acceptable to mommy either.  I just went through an hour of "I'll be good, mommy.  Can I watch tv?  I won't do it again." before she cried herself to sleep.  She doesn't want to go to school & states she "hates Mrs. XXX (her teacher).  I am very concerned about her level of frustration & she can't seem to tell me "why" she feels this way.  I have had many conversations with her teacher & the school about her behavior (even had her tested last year for learning problems - everyone involved just thought she was immature).  She just spent the summer at this very same school's summer camp & did wonderfully.  She had different teachers for the summer & all complimented her on how much she had matured & what a big helper she was.  The school is small so everyone knows my daughter & we had this same problem last year.  The teachers this summer were amazed at how very different her behavior this summer was. They even told her K-4 teacher how well she did over the summer. This also leads me to believe that the current behavior is a reflection of her relationship with her K-4 teacher.  My daughter, the teacher, and I can't go on like this all year.  Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.  My 10 year old daughter who also attends this school was helping out in the K-4 class but now is not allowed because my 4 year old clings to her while she is there & then cries when she leaves to the point that it is difficult for them to get her back under control.  My daughter is going to have teachers (and others) in life that she may not get along with but she needs to learn that she can't run away from those situations either.  She tells me all the time she wants to go to a different school or the same school but wants to go to kindergarten.  Sorry for the length, but I am just feeling really awful for my daughter and don't know what to do to help her.