I cant understand my 3 yr old daughters behavior. She defies me about almost everything. Some days she is ok, but most of the time it is a constant battle between the 2 of us. She wants to be in control of every situation, if she doesnt get her way she screams and throws herself on the floor, and sometimes hits me. I always try telling her in a nice voice Christina stop that, I will repeat it several times, then i warn her if she doesnt stop she will be punished.  Also when I discipline her she will cry that I dont love her anymore! I ALWAYS tell her i love her even when she is not behaving, I tell her I love her all of the time, i just dont like the way she is behaving. She continues to say this to me every time. When she throws her tantrums I tried the ignoring her thing, the screams just get louder and go on forever
Sometimes when she sees I am getting upset she will actually
laugh in my face, and continue to defy. The only way for me to get control of the situation is take her and smack her in the butt and put her in the bedroom. I hate treating this way but its the only way to make her stop. For a little while anyway, before I know it, we are battling over something else. My main concern is she acts this way only with me. When she is with others such as daycare or visiting her father or sometimes my friend will watch her for me, they will tell me what angel she is! Dont get me wrong, she does have a sweet side to her when she is with me, just help me understand why she defies only me in the ways i have explained.