First of all I am a little concerned that when I looked on the forum I really didn't see any issues with 4 yr old girls...That really scares me! My husband warned me when we got married that if we wanted to have children, they would probably be similar to him as a child. Well, it happened! I was an easy child to raise, from what my parents say but he was DIFFICULT! We really have been through a lot so I am hoping that this is the reason for the misbehavior. May 2004, my husband accepted a job in Florida. He wanted to give it a try w/o us moving just to be safe. I was 6 mos pregnant so my daughter & I moved in w/ my parents. After 3 mos, his job was going well so we joined him. The new baby, also a girl, was born in Sept. We lived in a dreadfull apt 1st to get back on our feet and then moved into a house 3 mos later. Our 4 yr old(3 @ the time) had to switch to 2 different schools while we were there. Not due to behavior but location. She started to "act out" a little @ this time. When we moved her to the 2nd school she became more of a discipline problem. Started to hit and scratch. We could control her w/ timeout at this point but since then we have moved back to Texas (for another transfer). Now at another school, she has been spitting, hitting, throwing unbelievable tantrums, raising her voice to the teacher, etc... My husband and I have definitely agreed on spanking her, timeout, redirection, etc... Nothing seems to work. She is extremely STRONG WILLED! She gets lots of attention from us and our family. The present school doesn't "believe" in timeout so they just redirect. We feel that when you have a strong willed child, redirection doesn't always work. We also tried some visual positive reenforcement with charts and stickers but that was a joke! On the other hand, she can be the sweetest little girl around. Sometimes, we wonder that since my husbands mom has bipolar disorder and my mom has depression, that we have created a serious situation. She doesn't act this way infront of us so we are at a loss as to what we should do! We have thought about taking her to some kind of childrens therapist but aren't really sure if we are over-reacting! Please try and direct us onto the correct pathway. Thank you!