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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
overly sensitive child and crying
Answered by
Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D. - Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Crisis Intervention
Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
This forum is for questions and support regarding child behavior issues such: Child Discipline (behavior management), Normal Child Development, Parent-Child Communications, Social Development
overly sensitive child and crying
by abbechester, Dec 05, 2005 12:00AM
My 6 year old son is a very sensitive child. He is very intuitive. The problem arises when he is playing with other children. If they don't follow the rules, he thinks they are cheating and he has a melt down. If he is playing team sports, and he does not get the ball thrown to him, he thinks his teammates do not want him on the team because he is not good enough. If he is hit by a ball, instead of going on with the game, he cries. He ususally thinks he was hit on purpose.
He is an only child so he does not have competition at home. He does good in school. He has a lot of friends, even though on some days he does not think so. When he has these melt downs I try to comfort him and calm him down and then explain that the lack of throwing the ball to him has nothing to do with his ability, but that not everyone can get the ball thrown to them.
I'm at a loss. I don't want to so him be so hurt for no reason
He is an only child so he does not have competition at home. He does good in school. He has a lot of friends, even though on some days he does not think so. When he has these melt downs I try to comfort him and calm him down and then explain that the lack of throwing the ball to him has nothing to do with his ability, but that not everyone can get the ball thrown to them.
I'm at a loss. I don't want to so him be so hurt for no reason
Doctor's Answer
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Dec 05, 2005 12:00AM
, Dec 05, 2005 12:00AM
The sort of reality testing you are doing with your son is sensible. He does need to hear how the world 'really is' vs how it appears to him. As he develops and participates in the ins-and-outs of everday give and take with peers, he will likely develop a thicker skin for the types of situations you describe. If you wish to arrange some type of intervention (but by no means is it a compelling thing to do), a recreationally -oriented form of social skills group would be helpful.
Since he is only 6 he will probably outgrow this, but you may want to get him involved in after school activites and come summer your cities recreartion program.