Without the opportunity to observe the situation, I can only offer you a perspective. Your description indicates that both your daughter and her teacher can use some help in learning how better to handle anger. There is no doubt that your daughter should not hit to express her anger, regarddless of what is going on around her. Set a very fiirm limit with her about this: 'No hitting'. Now, if you have concerns about the teacher's expression of her own anger, by all means speak with the director of the school. You are correct in thinking that an atmosphere of unrest and aggression will very likely bring out those traits in children, whether at home or in school. We expect teachers to model the sorts of behavior we want our children to learn. Children learn about emotions and behavior in school, just as they learn their letters, sounds and numbers.
If I understood you correctly, the Teacher left finger nail marks in your daughters arm?? If thats the case YOU need to report this teacher. She should be setting an example for the children, not being nose to nose with them and yelling in their face. YES children are a product of their enviroment, but also I feel this is a learned behavior. I presume she is in preschool all day long. If so then she is learning this is the way to resolve conflict. Children learn rather quickly and will mimic others behavior. MY daughter whom is nine, goes to visit her father once a month, (he lives 300 miles away) her behavior before going is well adjusted, polite and extremely friendly and happy, she is a product of her enviroment. happy and well structured home life., when she comes home from her fathers is something else. she is, well lets just say she acts as though she is the QUEEN and I better bow down to her and do as she says and wants because she deserves it. Needless to say after several conversations with my ex, he revealed he gives her everything she wants, and lets her do pretty much anything she wants, again a product of her enviroment, and that is after only 3 days with him once a month,. I am not an expert but I do know what this pre school teacher is doing is WRONG and should be fixed as soon as possible, look for another day care, and report this wing nut.