First, I thank you immensely for this forum.  Your answers are very encouraging and informative.  I am 49, male, diabetes type 2 but doing pretty good with control.  I had a high risk exposure August 25, 2005...homosexual, anal sex, unprotected, I was the bottom recipient. He claimed he was negative, but I don't know.  I have no idea if he ejaculated, for I was drunk.  Afterwards, for several weeks, I had a sinus infection, ear infection (so did others in my family, so then I figured it was a cold making the rounds), followed by two bouts of diverticulitis.  I lost 35 pounds in about six months (started at 270, now 235 and holding - but for full disclosure I did not eat alot due to diverticulosis and also trying to diet to cut out sugar, at least from drinks).  I tested on May 11, 2006 at AID Atlanta (almost nine months after the encounter) with an Oraquick Rapid HIV Antibody (oral swab) test...it was negative.  I still have huge anxiety due to other "symptoms" - can't gain weight (doctor says its anxiety), occassional swollen nodes, low grade fever, on-going allergy symptoms - postnasal drip, irritated throat...doc says allergies, and I do suffer from them, though not this much.  Accute anxiety.  My questions are (1) is the Oraquick swab reliable and accurate enough?  (2) could my seroconversion have been delayed for over 6 months due to the stuff I had in the fall if it was not HIV infection (3) I am married...can I resume sexual intimacy with my wife (we held off for a number of reasons...she does not know), and finally (4) should I be retested, or can I rely on my test on May 11 and move on, seeking to resolve this through counseling and therapy?   Your answer is crucial to me, and I do appreciate all you are giving through this forum.