Symptoms From a 1988 exposure
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As for your partner's behavior, if she really was alarmed by your UTI, she probably thought you may have given HER a STD. From the tone of your post, I'm also guessing that you may have been rather insistent and quite anxious in your contacts with her, which probably really did constitute harrassment. I'm sure she didn't have HIV, and you don't either.
I do think counseling is in order. You definitely don't need further testing, and anyone who keeps testing you for HIV after all these negative tests (assuming you've had no other risks) must be behaving unethically. You might, however, want to talk with your doctor about your anxiety around HIV, and about possibly starting meds to help you as you begin to work through this in therapy.