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Spotting- almost 6 wks pregnant... Such sadness...

by Sunshyn, Mar 14, 2004 12:00AM
I am almost 6 weeks preg with my 5th try since my son was born 9 years ago. We tried for years and finally went to see a specialist 3 years ago. Doc found during test both tubes were twisted and opened them during a laparascopy. That was 3 years ago. I have had 2 m/c since then- one at 10 weeks (had to have d&c) and one last summer at 5 weeks. I had also had 2 m/c before the tubal issue (HOW IN THE WORLD DO TUBES TWIST ANYWAYS!?) I went to see doc last week when I had + preg test and she put me on Prometrium "just so we can feel like we are doing something" even though my levels were "great" when we tested a few years ago. I started spotting this a.m. after taking my 3rd pill last night. I also have mild cramping. I took the darm pills so that I could try something- I thought I was doing right. This will be my 5th m/c if it is one. I am so sad! I know I am blessed to have my son, he's beautiful and I love him dearly. But I met my husband when my son was 1 and my hubby didn't marry me knowing I was "broken" (as I like to call it). I feel so much guilt. The m/c are so hard physically but so much worse emotionally. I just am so blue. I had so much hope just a few days ago and now I am mad at myself for taking this pill when the doc even said my levels were fine. Maybe it was inevitable, maybe it isn't the pill. I also have never started any of the m/c's like this with spotting. They all just started with intense bleeding. Maybe the Prometrium is making my body not shed? Well, thats not good either because if I am miscarrying, it needs to pass to avoid infection. I am so torn. I don't even think I am posting to ask a question, I am posting to air. Moral tot his story... I don't really know. Aren't we supposed to learn something valuable from every bad experience? Sometimes I think I was better off with those tubes twisted- then atleast I wouldn't have one HEARTBREAK after another. Can't get pregnant with twisted tubes. Can't get pregnant= No heartbreak with the losses. I am whining aren't I? I'm sorry, I just needed to feel sorry for myslf for a moment. I will survive. I think of all of the women that are having abortions today. Why couldn't I just be blessed with ONE of those unwanted babies today?
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by slsa2000, Mar 14, 2004 12:00AM
I am not familiar with the medication that you are taking. However, my heart goes out to you!! I am very sorry to hear of your losses. Is it possible that the spotting is implantation bleeding? I wish you the very best of luck. I am in the same situation as you as far as having a child from a previous relationship (she is 8) and being with a new husband and wanting another child. So, I know the feeling. It took us a long time to conceive. Fortunately, I am due in April. I hope that you have the same success. Good Luck to you!!

Shannon

by sbslilli, Mar 14, 2004 12:00AM
Your situation could go either way.  Prometrium helps promote healthy blood vessels in the uterus and keeps the uterus from contracting.  So the spotting could just be from all those vessels as the baby gets a good hold onto the uterus.  It will not cause you have a m/c.  But it will prolong one.  So if you are m/c'ing, it will just take longer to happen while on the prometrium.  MANY WOMEN HAVE SPOTTING EARLY IN PG!!!  You could be ABSOLUTELY FINE!!!  I know it is hard to feel good about it after so many other losses.  I just had two losses in a row (in the last three months).  I was also taking prometrium.  I have one daughter, 2yrs old.  She is Great!  I had an 8 day "period" while pg with her.  So just call the doc and demand to have your hormone levels checked to see if they are going up.  Please let us know how things are going.  I'll check back to see how you are doing.  You'll be in my prayers.



steph

by kirsten00, Mar 14, 2004 12:00AM
To: Sun
I know how hard this time is and how scary, BUT I am almost 21 weeks and I spotted several times during this pregnancy (once for almost 4 days), as long as it remains light there is still hope.  Be sure and tell you doctor, and I hope that you are going to a specialist, a neonatologist, a step above just a regular ob/gyn.  I changed to a high risk doc and it has made all the difference.  My thoughts go with you, take care...Kirsten

by Sunshyn, Mar 14, 2004 12:00AM
I appreciate all of your kind words, and I ahve learned a bit too. The cramping is slightly worse (nothing as bad as my usual periods)but the spotting is nearly all gone. I'll have to see what happens. I still have nausea and sore boobs but... I've just never had this happen. I will take the Prometrium again tonite and call Doc in the a.m. as she is out of the office. My hubby thinks there is still hope. I just feel better mourning earlier than later if that's what needs to happen. With one on my m/c's it took WEEKS before my levels dropped enough to start bleeding yet I knew I had a dead fetus. Thats the worst, I think- having your body want to hold tight to it yet your head knows it just won't happen.



I feel better knowing I didn't make a mistake with the Prometrium... Thank you for that!



I would love to see the specialist but I live out here in smallville Colorado and we don't have many options where Doc's are concerned. My Doc has followed me for these past years so I feel good about her helping me. She is doing an ultrasound on Thursday, I may have to wait until then- I'll be 6 weeks and 2 days then. Let's hope for a heartbeat! Those of you that did have spotting, was it brown? Did you also have some cramping? My son was completely healthy and I remember feeling for months like I was about to start my period any minute. So maybe it's OK.... I'll keep you guys posted...



Thanks again for your kindness!

by silo, Mar 14, 2004 12:00AM
To: Sunshyn
Don't worry just yet.  I know that's easier said than done; BUT, I too have had 3 miscarriages all beginning with spotting.  I'm now almost 11 weeks pregnant and had a little spotting with this pregnancy.  I spotted (brown) one time exactly one week before my period was due.  I'm sure that was implantation.  I also spotted at about 7 weeks for a few days.  It was very light brown and we never found out why.  The doctor just said sometimes spotting happens for no reason.  I've seen the baby/heartbeat and listen to it everyday at home and so far so good.  I wouldn't give up hope yet....there's always a chance.  I'll remember you in my prayers.  Please let us know how you're doing.  



P.S.  I have a too have a son that just turned 10 last week.  We've waited quite a while to have another child.

by silo, Mar 14, 2004 12:00AM
To: Sunshyn
I forgot to mention that at about 4 weeks, my doctor put me on Prometrium (one, 100mg tablet a day); even though I had great progesterone levels.  He said I didn't necessarily need it; but, it would definitely not hurt a thing to go ahead and take it.  When the spotting started, the doctor said to take 2 tablets a day...I did that for about 5 days and then he said to just go back to one.  I wouldn't worry a bit about the Prometrium...it won't cause you to miscarry.

by JustME9, Mar 15, 2004 12:00AM
To: Sunshyn
Hey, i'm from Colorado too.  Just wanted to let u know u are in my thoughts...keep us posted!

by silo, Mar 15, 2004 12:00AM
To: Kellied/Sunshyn
I WISH I was from Colorado.  We love Colorado more than anywhere. We live in Texas, which is so miserable in the summers.  We spend most of our summers in Colorado to escape the heat.

by JustME9, Mar 15, 2004 12:00AM
To: silo
REally? =) It's so pretty here and I love how winter we get some snow and some sunshine - where in TX do you live? The only thing I wish CO had is more water! =)

by Sunshyn, Mar 15, 2004 12:00AM
Well, I suppose it's a done deal.



I started a very heavy period last night and it is still flowing. I am cramping beyond belief- sometimes it feels like labor contractions- so strange. Oh well. I think I am growing numb to it- we'll try again late down the road.



I will go to the doc for the ultrasound after all as they want to make sure I am passing all of the tissue.



Isn't it so hard to be optimistic when you just mean to be realistic? I want to live in a pink bubble and say "Sure, it will happen! We'll look forward to the next time." But now everytime I get pregnant, I DREAD it and I just CAN'T BE EXCITED. My husband said this time when I told him I was pregnant, "Well, let's just be skeptical so that we don't get our hopes up." Do you know what it feels like to remember the look on his face the VERY FIRST TIME I told him I was pregnant? He LIT up! He glowed! He told EVERYONE he knew! Now it is so different. Now it is almost a time of mourning because we expect our hearts will be let down. What a bummer!



I'm airing again. I guess I have the "baby blues" only I don't have the baby. It will pass...it always does.



Thank for listening... I feel like Eeyore... "Poor me". Has anyone else had this many miscarriages and it ended with a happy ending?

by silo, Mar 15, 2004 12:00AM
To: Sunshyn
I have been there...totally.  I know exactly what you mean.  I was so bummed this time to tell my husband that I was pregnant again.  His reaction was....."Yeah, right...I'll believe it here in about 3 months."  He's just now starting to seem pretty excited.  I'm almost 11 weeks and he's still not telling very many people.  There's several of his friends that he hasn't even told yet.  I happened to answer his cell phone just today, and it was a friend of his that he talks to quite a bit.  He asked how I was doing and I said "Oh, just getting bigger everyday" and he said "What do you mean?  You? Bigger?"  He had no idea.  I think my husband is just really afraid of another let down even at this stage.  I know it's hard, but I'm proof that it can still happen, even after 3 miscarriages.  Just don't give up hope.  It'll happen when God is ready.

by JustME9, Mar 15, 2004 12:00AM
To: Sunshyn
(((((hugs)))) i'm so so sorry to hear your news.  You know hopeinal has had multiple miscarriages and is now pregnant with a baby girl..i'm sure some of her posts are on here...I will be thinking of you and you can always vent here anytime! we all understand!!!!Kellie

by Bamboo, Mar 16, 2004 12:00AM
To: Sunshyn
I am so sorry to hear about it...I just started reading to find out more about miscarriages since I just had my second one.  I can totally relate re:not getting too excited about telling everyone since you feel that you are not yet out of the woods.  My prayers are with you and your family.



I just had a missed abortion last Sept 2003 and had a complete miscarriage just last Thursday.  It is sad and can be quite defeating.   I am blessed though since we already have an adorable 5 yr old girl.



My prayers go out to all those who have had multiple miscarriages.  The uncertainty can really be difficult.  I continue to pray that we will all find the answers why and be blessed like the others who have had successful pregnancies even after multiple miscarriages - you give me hope.  I hope if we do try again...I will just  as successful as you are.



Please include me in your prayers as I may have a D&C procedure done again....Sunshyn, I pray that you will not lose hope and will be successful at trying again...take care...

by VirGinny, Mar 16, 2004 12:00AM
To: Sunshyn
Hi Sunshyn,



I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. I'm going through the same thing right now. After the ecstasy of finding out that I was pregnant, I'm crashing to the depths of dispair. It is my first pregnancy