Thank You so much for all your comments.....Please keep my mom (Connie)and myself(Davina)in your prayers. We have discussed Quality VS Quantity very little, I am afraid she'll think I've given up on her. I have told her that she has been more of a fighter than I could ever hope to be. She has always been the strength in our family. I don't ever want for her to think that I have lost hope, but I'm really scared that she isn't really prepared for the reality of this disease. She's a firm believer that if you do everything the doctor suggests and keep Faith in God she will beat this disease. I Love her so much and hate to see here suffer so badly.
Wednesday she has CT scan, Chest X Ray and then we see the Head of the Oncology Dept.(This is a new appointment they just gave her.)
Does anyone have suggestions on how I approach this subject. I am an emotional wreck, and I need to keep it together for her.
I am so sorry for what you are going through. Watching your parents suffer is so hard - especially when you are as close as the two of you seem to be. Your mother is so blessed to have you. The love and support I get from my three sons does more for me than anything. Keep it flowing. I agree that you should talk openly with your mom about how she feels and how long she wants to continue to fight. She is really young - but on the other hand - she may be ready to head for a better place. She may be waiting for you to be ready for that as well. It will be important for her to know that you will be ok with whatever she decides. Would you mind sharing her and your first name so I came pray for you both by name - though He always knows who I mean - it just helps me~ God bless you and keep you strong.
Have you and your mother had a discussion about how she feels, and if she is tired of fighting what sadly appears to be a losing battle? Most oncologists will continue to assist a patient in fighting a disease as long as they have options with surgery or chemotherapy or radiation, and only when they run out of options will they then discuss 'end game' issues with the patient. The only advice that I can offer is to be very specific in your questions to the doctor in the appointment this week. If the doctor understands that you and your mother have discussed these "quality and quantity" issues (assuming that you have had these discussions) then perhaps the doctor will have a real talk with you about to what to expect.
I do not have any answers for you, but you and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and keep the faith.
~Tascha