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You're Never Too Old For Great Sex
If you watch primetime TV dramas or listen to lyrics of current pop songs, you might think that sex is only for younger adults. This simply isn

I feel your pain, I hit the same problem at 34, at which point I was engaged (married now 2 years).  The range of problems it causes is enormous - my wife feels unloved and unwanted, which makes her colder towards me, which makes me even less interested.  I wonder if it's just me (as opposed to the dynamic in the relationship), and that hits my confidence hard.  And now there's one less passion in life, a passion we're naturally supposed to have, and that makes me feel abnormal.

I'm admitting this just for your information, I'm not proud of it and I do not recommend it.  However, it was getting so bad that if she made bedroom eyes the anxiety would rush in and I'd shrivel like I was in a cold pool.  Kissing caused waves of anxiety to race through my gut.  If I made it to sex, I could last long enough for her, but never ejaculate.  2 years of that, frequency of sex probably averages about 1 time every 2-3 months.  I was dying of fear on our wedding night, fortunately that one worked out.

We talked, I got therapy, etc.  I finally slipped (well, let's be honest, made a conscious decision) and slept with a woman I met with whom I had an instant, deep, and intense mutual attraction.  It was amazing.  Good news - I know it's not me.  Bad news, it's me.  Even more bad news, I demonstrated an awful lack of integrity to myself.

Seek help, get on this, be aggressive in working it out and include your wife.  You'll probably have to be more honest than you're comfortable with (how can I tell my wife she's not my type physically?  And why didn't I know that sooner), but it's better than cheapening yourself and hurting someone you love.

You need to be honest with her and how you feel.  We are taking counselling together and the counsellor says to be open and honest and the will give a healthy relationship.  Go to councelling if need be but dont let this ruin your relationship.  You are not like your dad and you will never be like him especially if you dont think like him and you deal with this problem.  I am sure your wife wants to work this out as much as you do. And this is not oyour  fault.  It is  your body.  Nothing else.  I am not  a doc but sounds like you are struggling physically.  If need be see a psychologist once or twice as it drains the emotions and the mind.  The cost is worth a marriage, would you agree?  I guess I seem forceful on this cause I have wasted my life not doing anything about anything and yrs went by until a breakdown came...and I wouldnt want that on my best friend.

Also I am taking paxil and so is my daughter and it has engerized her sex life 100%.  She was getting despondant about that very thing.  I only have been on paxil for 4 days so I dont know how that works for me.  Paxil works on depression and anxiety plus other things.  Look it up on the anxiety section here on the web.  YOU WILL OVERCOME!

Well, you have tried the first things i would have suggested'so let me ask a few rather sensitive questions_

When you DO get excited what is the stimulus? Is it your wife being nude, being touched by her, watching another woman' watching on on sexy movie, pornography, imagining sex with a man, thinking about a specific fantasy such as S and M or on on three-way- or??

I think the answer to these probes is significant. After all,you are able to get sexually interested some of the time. I want you to carefullly observe the direct antecedents of your arousal. Whatever they are, they  might tell you a bit more about what triggers your desire and give you something to try and increase as foreplay or fantasy.
The other thing I might suggest is going to any endocrinologist and seeing if there is anything interfering with your body's testosterone uptake. Your testosterone levels may be normal but your ability to use your hormones  may be inhibited.
Finally, i would check all medications. Are you taking anything for diabetes or depression? Are you depressed in general? If so, tell your doctor because these conditions will interfer with arousal.
  One more thing; you don't have to be aroused to please your partner with your hands or mouth. Don't neglect her needs even if they are not your own.  Make love to her so she knows you care about her even if it is not directly stimulating to you.