You do not say whether your warts were professionally diagnosed. If not, do that immediately; you cannot rely (and neither can I) on your description. Lesions coming and going like you describe is not typical for warts.
If you have genital warts, transmission by hand-genital contact is uncommon, but probably can occur from time to time. However, I cannot estimate the actual odds; there simply are no data on this.
Bottom line: See a health care provider. If you have warts, get them treated.
HHH, MD
I have had them diagnosed but did not get them treated. The warts that came and 'went' i picked off.
You say it can happen from time to time but what factors does that depend on?
If i wash my hands after touching myself and before touching her do i reduce the odds to zero?
Can you give me any information on how 'uncommon' hand to genital transmission. You say it can happen from time to time but what factors does that depend on?
Many thanks
Once in a while, STD clinics, university student health centers, and dermatologists see patients with genital warts or other HPV infections who deny ever having sex except mutual masturbation or oral sex. But this is rare, and it isn't always certain the patient is being truthful. That is the total of all knowledge about the subect, and nobody can answer your questions in the detail you seek. It is logical that washing would help reduce reduce the risk, but again no data are available.
It makes no sense that your warts have not been medically treated. It will speed resolution, and the sooner they are gone, the less your worries about transmission.