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Missy & Alyssa

Please go to a Alon meeting, you don't have to say anything, nor pay anything, just sit and listen if you choose, you both might find some answers there,.......Alyssa was right, it is not your problems, but to learn how to deal with them if you choose to stay or leave ( your hubbies), I will gurantee  these meeetings will help you, that is what they were base upon, finding ways to "help" ourselfs firstFirst progesterone mc10
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May happiness and peace of mind find you,

Kathy/wildone

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KEEP FIGHTING THE FIGHT YOU WILL WIN.

My husband has been smokingQuitting smoking
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Smoking hazards crack for about 7 years.  We have been together for about 2 years.  We have been fighting his addictionDrug abuse and dependence daily.  He has never stayed off of the crack.  He is in trouble with the law for bad checks.  He has really been making an effort to stay clean.  He has gone 10 days without smokingQuitting smoking
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Smoking hazards for so many years is it possible for someone just to stop like this or is he just fooling me and himself?

hello I need help too my husband has plenty of money so he's crack usage has never hit rock bottom he thinks he is a great husband because he pays all the bills and keeps food in the house i never want for anything except my "Husband" the one who promise to love and respect me!!!!! evertime he uses he has an excuse I'm always mad or I gave up on him when reality is he gave up on us and he's self I knew my husband had a problem with crack before i married him but he was clean then & together we was going to fight this addictionDrug abuse and dependence. But it has not worked out that way about a year after we was married he started again not everyday not even every week but when he did it was hundred of dollers even thousands and for hours he doesn't come home even all nite sometimes but to him it is "NO BIG DEAL" I'm sittting home going crazy thinking all the worst things and he comes home like he's been at work for 8 hrs i should be happy to see him and in a strange way i am because i know he's not dead somewhere but i have let my angerIslets of langerhans
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Pancreatic islet cell tumor go so many times and for maybe a month or so he's clean being the best husband I'm really confused because I know leaving him is the right thing to do but when you marry it is for better and worse and doesn't that mean fighting with everthing you got to keep your vows when is it ever time to give up on your marriage?

Let me just start off with saying that i do smoke crack, im 19 years old and have been smokingQuitting smoking
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Smoking hazards for 2 years off and on. Me being in denile and obviosly being 19 years old, i dont have the money to support a 100 dollars of crack everynight. But what i do know is that even though people stop smokingQuitting smoking
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Smoking hazards crack left and right, there needs to be a reason for them to do that. I always seem to start smokingQuitting smoking
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Smoking hazards again when i feel lonely and deppressed, but every time i have stopped was because i had someone there to tell me the consequenses of my actions. The best thing that i can tell you Tammy, is that if your husband has not stopped for you, is either because you have not told him what could happen with your relationship or that he wont quiot untill you do leave him and he notices when he hits rock bottom what hes lossed. You may think that i dont know what i am talking about because of my age, bust trust me, its best for your relationship to set boundries and leave him. Either way its the best for both of you.

I know you probably did not realize this at the time but you posted a reply to a message from 2000, seven years ago.  This has been a problem since our forum made some changes last week and many people have been doing the same thing. Please keep around though and check our active posts.  Go to the top of page and click on forum and then click again on the AddictionDrug abuse and dependence forum in second paragraph.  

Thanks

Hello and welcome to the forum....

You mentioned you used N/A and Narconon........then you mention he really craves crack when he has been drinking...........

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Drug-induced hypertension........what did you do at N/A and Narconon did you bother to even listen........

he needs 90 meetings in 90 days........talk to a drugChemical dependence - resources
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AddictionDrug abuse and dependence is one of the worst diseases in our world today........and until people start treating it like a disease addictionDrug abuse and dependence will thrive for many years to come.......

I am 34 yrs old.  I never seen Crack till last year when I met my boyfriend.  It has completly ruined my life.  I have been smokingQuitting smoking
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Smoking hazards for over 1 yr now... I have gone so far in debt & lost so much.  He has been smokingQuitting smoking
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Smoking hazards 4 yrs & is the greatest person when not on it but he won't quit.  I say every day that I am not doing it anymore.. I am so tired of making someone else money & I never have none... then he will take us right to it & once he lights up & give in... how can I stop this madness??  I am fine as long as I am not around it....  is there any help to this or is the only way to leave him????

From my experience with a crack headHead and face reconstruction
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Radial head injury will take you down with them everytime if you let them what i done after 11 years was tired of seeing my kids hurt and i kick is *** to the curb, he cried and pleaded with me "i dont have no place to live" well thats not my problem, what was my problem was my kids and not seeing them hurt no more, he chose to let his self get like this so he can live like this, we spent 1000.00 of on rehab 4 times aa, na ,ca, nothing why becuase he didnt want to quit he enjoyed the life of feeling 10ft tall and bullet proof. so fine you want that life live it by your self buddy well guess what happens, crack got control of him once again and now he has a perament place to live, where ya ask in the prison systems, he let it control him and now is doing time for 2 counts of arm robbery and theift over 10,000 so i hope he can be straighting up when he gt out in bout 20 years. all i can say is let him/her go.

Run away.  Don't walk, run (fast).

If you think it's bad now, stick around someone who's still using and you'll be seeing worse.   It will get worse.  It ALWAYS gets worse.

Most folks in RecoveryRecovery position - series will tell you that they had to completely avoid all People, Places and Things  associated with using.  Completely.  All of 'em.

Grab hold of the moment of clarity that allowed you to see this for the madness that it is.  Get away from it now.  Those moments of clarity often don't last too long - it's more than just a possibility that next week (or tomorrow) you be thinking "Why did I think this was madness? This isn't so bad" and it will just keep getting worse and worse and worse . . . and you'll care less and less and less . . .

Get away and get clean while you have a chance.  You're running out of time.  

CATUF
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Why does it have to be so hard.  You finally find someone you love so much but they have this demon on them.  I have asked GOD to open my eyesAmblyopia
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I am livingAdvanced care directives with an addict.  I see in some of the comments on this sight that I am not alone.  Much of my daily problems are shared by many.  I am glad to know that I am not alone, but also sadDepression that we ALL have to go through this.  I think I came to this page for answers as to how I can solve this problem but I already know that if he is not wanting to change nothing will change.  He too when sober is a wonderful husband and father but when he is in need of a fix nothing or no one else matters.  It is sadDepression that I have no one to talk to but some strangers on a web site that I chanced up on but it actually feels good to let it out.  I have been fighting this war for 8 years and I am ready to waive the white flag and quit now, but I feel so much confusionConfusion
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I feel for you. I was once a coke addict for 10 years,including alcoholAlcohol and diet
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kept using almost every day. Got arrested twiceTwice-a-day,but that just made me find
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when I met my wife. She just thought I drank alot,but eventually she started
to wonder where all our money was going.I kept part of my pay from her,
to support my habit and gave her the part of the check,which she always
thought was the whole thing. I did hit rock bottom as far as work went,since
I was always hung over and strung out. My boss made me go to rehab or get
fired.Went to rehab as he said,but beleive it or not,I have stopped for weeks at
a time,just because I could and did want to. I never really went through he bad
withdrawls like most everyone does,it was the fact that I didn't want to stop
for good. Never hit complete rock bottom,that's why I never really had a strong
reason t make me quit. My wife was mad when my boss called her and said
what problem I had and what I had to do or get fired. That was my awakening.
I didn't want to lose my wife or job,so I made up my mind that I was going to
do this for them and most of all,myself. I did want to quit,just never had a desire
or opportunity to have someone front me the money for rehab. It was a total
success,because I knew if I didn't go get clean then,that I would never do it and
probably end up overdosing or killing myself in the end. If I were in your shoes,
I'd tell him you will leave him if you don't get professional help,and that your not
kidding.If he says no,leave for as long as you need to,until he wakes up or when
you see that he really doesn't need you. It's a very ,very hard thing to do,but it's
what you need to do to save not just him,yourself too. Good luck and God Bless.

I am 51 years old and my husband and I used a lot of cocaineDrug abuse in the 80's & 90's.  I went backBack pain - low
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Drug-induced hypertension do is stunt your growth, and mask the real world.  Unfortuntely, my husband didn't stop and by 1999, he collapsed and was taken to the hospital in an ambulance that the neighbors called.  He flatllined 2 times, he ended up with kidneyAcute kidney failure
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