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AnnieBrooke Female Oregon City - OR Member since Apr 2006
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, Nov 13, 2006 12:00AM
Look in the archives on this topic, there was a lively conversation of kids playing with their "peepees," leaning ryhthmically into their carseat straps and getting hypnotic looks on their facesFace pain, rubbing on the couch arm with their diapered peepee, and a whole bunch of other. Small childrenChild neglect and psychological abuse Child safety seats Child tylenol cold multi-symptom plus cough School age child development don't know what "masturbation" is or all the societal baggage that comes along with the idea of it, all they know is if something feels good to them they will do it. It's actually very normal. If she were to keep doing this until the age when mommy could discuss it with her, the thing for mommy to do is to tell her (without judgement or angerIslets of langerhans Ovarian cancer dangers Pancreatic islet cell tumor) that this is a thing to do only in the privacy of her room. Usually that does it because kids don't really want to go off away from everything in the household, even in order to do this. :) Please have your sister talk to her pediatrician for ideas, the main thing is not to make the daughter feel bad or ashamed, she's not doing anything wrong, just something humanHcg in urine Hiv infection Human bites Human papillomavirus vaccine.
AnnieBrooke Female Oregon City - OR Member since Apr 2006
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Having had both a DS and a DD who went through the PHASE (it ends, it doesn't last forever!) of self-exploration, I applaud your comments. Why would a parent get upset? They touch EVERYTHING -- they know NOTHING. Hope the pediatrician is enlightened.
AnnieBrooke Female Oregon City - OR Member since Apr 2006
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, Nov 13, 2006 12:00AM
To: jackie and emma
Thanks for your nice words. The reason I suggested that the sister talk to the pediatrician is that she sounded unnecessarily negative over something so normal (all the "trying to make her stop" stuff) and I wasn't sure she would take the word of a bunch of ladies on a website about how normal it is and how important it is not to make the childChild neglect and psychological abuse Child safety seats Child tylenol cold multi-symptom plus cough School age child development feel bad about it. I thought maybe an authority figure telling her this (instead of just me) would calm her down about the interpretations she was putting on the activity. I appreciate the flyer mentioned by the other poster, too. As you say, emma, they touch EVERYTHING, they know NOTHING. Let's not start making them feel bad for that!
ajemmom Female, 31 years Denton - TX Member since Nov 2006
, Nov 13, 2006 12:00AM
My dd does this too! She started at about 18 months and it hasn't stopped (she is 3 now!) Doctor said that it is normal for kids to explor themselves, especially if it feels good. What is important is to not make them feel ashamed, and once they are old enough to understand, tell them it is something done in private!
But from having been a nanny to 3 girls and having now 2 girls of my own the touching oneself is very normal. It is true like the other moms have already stated, it is how a parent handles the situation that is of the utmost importance. Kids do what feels good to them. There isn't any stigma attached to touching themselves until someone puts a stigma on it.
alaysha Female, 21 years Provo - UT Member since Feb 2007
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I guess my baby is starting really early then. During our first ultrasound my little girl couldn't keep her hands out of between the legs. The technician thought it was a boy because they see it often with boys in utero grabbing their penis but NOPE, 2nd ultrasound confirmed we have a little girl in there.
But from having been a nanny to 3 girls and having now 2 girls of my own the touching oneself is very normal. It is true like the other moms have already stated, it is how a parent handles the situation that is of the utmost importance. Kids do what feels good to them. There isn't any stigma attached to touching themselves until someone puts a stigma on it.
I think parents have to handle this individually according to their own values but its been proven that ridiculing a child or berating them for self touch doesn't lead to anything positive in the future so it is one of those subjects that needs to be approached in a sensitive manner.