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Just not happy:(
by bjbbeauchamp, Apr 06, 2007 12:00AM
Lately I have been feeling a bit down. A month ago I thought I was pregnant and was a little upset b/c my DD was only 8 months old and I didn't think I could handle another one, but then I turned out not to be. You would think I would have been relieved, but I was upset, b/c I guess I had worked myself all up about being pregnant and had accepted it and then BAM I wasn't. So along with that I have just not been happy. I am starting an online children's boutique, my DH and I haven't really had time for each other and we both feel each other drifting apart, which is not what I want. I love him, but I am tired when he gets home and I want a break from DD sometimes and he understands, but the romance just isn't there and it upsets me. Its not that I am not attracted to him, but it is just that I do not have the drive for it right now. Is this normal? I don't want him to get the idea or think that I am cheating on him or do not love him, b/c that is not the case. And to top if all off I just feel like nothing has been going right for me lately. I had a hair appt and was excited and it didnt' turn out the way I thought it would, so I am depressed about that and then I hate it when you say one thing and someone turns it around to another and then they get upset at you. I feel as if my whole is falling apart. I am not depressed so much in any way would I ever want to or think to hurt myself, my DH, or my wonderful DD. So that is not to even consider here, just the plain fact that I am down in the dumps and I really dont have any friends here to talk or relate to. I am crazy or is this all normal?
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by bjbbeauchamp, Apr 06, 2007 12:00AM
Oh and to add one more thing. I called today to make an appt with my GYN and my favorite nurse has left and she always knew what was going on with me so all I had to do was ask for her and she would take care of me, getting me what I needed or getting me in right away. Well they couldn't even get me in until later next week which frustrates me a bit. They took forever to find me in the system and then schedule me an appt.
by NataliesMommy, Apr 06, 2007 12:00AM
It sounds like you are overwhelmed with all that is going on in your life. Starting a business takes a lot of time and energy. When you have a young child, that alone is exhausting let alone a business, household chores, and the dh. But.......dont forget your dh. Line up a sitter and go out. The two of you need some alone time. See if anyone at all can give you even an hour alone with dh but go out with dh, dont stay home for your alone time. Just getting out will do you both a world of good. A nice glass of wine while your out wont hurt either. I speak this because I have been exactly where you are now. Both dh and I own our own businesses and we have a 2.5 yo dd. We have learned that getting out ANYWHERE alone replenishes a lot of what we need in our marriage. Please try this. Good luck with your business venture.
by Me2mommy2b, Apr 06, 2007 12:00AM
I feel you! DH and I feel the same way. We have a very cranky six month-old DD who drains us of our energy. We both work full time but I get home before DH. When DH comes from work, I just throw DD on him and do what I have to do (dishes, shower, etc). We literally have no time for each other and no energy for romance. But I agree with the above post, do make time for each other b/c it is very important for the health of your relationship. It gets better as they get older (gee, I hope so) and more independent. Hope everything works out just fine :)
by Wooly25, Apr 07, 2007 12:00AM
I am being induced on Monday, and my in-laws have already said that if Hubby and I need some time alone that they will take the baby for awhile. So maybe check into grandparents or your siblings. Anyways good luck, and just take a break every now and again. Maybe you can even leave her overnight on a weekend and have a mini vacation or just a day together alone.
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