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Avoiding Co-dependence
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Avoiding Co-dependence
by andrea, Nov 14, 1999 12:00AM
I'm a college student and in the past month have gotten involved with a great guy that I care about a lot. My problem is that if he doesn't call everyday and when I don't see him I get depressed and start worrying about all sorts of absurds reasons as to why he's not calling. (For example: "He's mad at me..." even though there is no reason think he would be.) Now, I've been told this can be pretty normal.... but it's driving me nuts and makes it difficult to get work done! How can I begin to feel more secure about my relationship with him! (This can also carry into other relationships as well.... I've always been VERY insecure about friendships and feel left out a lot.)
Thanks! Andrea
Thanks! Andrea
Doctor's Answer
by HFHS MD-JM, Nov 16, 1999 12:00AM
Andrea,
This isecurity in relationships sounds like its a pervasive issue. It is not uncommon early in a relationship that one may have some insecurity but it generally ceases as the relationship progresses. I suggest that you discuss these insecurities with your boyfriend to see if they can be put to rest(or if in fact there is some real basis to it). If you feel this is not helpful then I recommend that you seek some psychotherapy to work through this issue with someone who can be objective. Sometimes this type of behavior can represent a personality disorder.
This infromation is intended for educational purposes only. Please consult your personal physician for specific health concerns.
Sincerely,
HFHS MD-JM
Keywords: Insecurity
This isecurity in relationships sounds like its a pervasive issue. It is not uncommon early in a relationship that one may have some insecurity but it generally ceases as the relationship progresses. I suggest that you discuss these insecurities with your boyfriend to see if they can be put to rest(or if in fact there is some real basis to it). If you feel this is not helpful then I recommend that you seek some psychotherapy to work through this issue with someone who can be objective. Sometimes this type of behavior can represent a personality disorder.
This infromation is intended for educational purposes only. Please consult your personal physician for specific health concerns.
Sincerely,
HFHS MD-JM
Keywords: Insecurity
