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Bipolar and BPD and dealing with life-how?
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Bipolar and BPD and dealing with life-how?
by karenruth, Nov 22, 1999 12:00AM
Life is too much for me
i want to quit and live in a hospital where people are nice and help me regulate my moods and structure my life for me
i can not do it
it is too much for me
my doctor refuses to hospitalize me
he sayes i would regress
i deal with basic issues
like bathing, brushing my teeth, sleeping, eating, trying to keep my moods and arritudes under control (so people do not call the police)
i did my laundry for the frist time in about six months this weekend-ten loads (i did it a little in between and went to the dry cleaners a little)
I WASHED MY CAR FOR THE FRIST TIME IN THREE MONTHS
i cleaned the insides of my car and took stuff out for the frist time in two years
i try to work but i lose jobs alot
i am well educated (i have a masters)BUT basic coping and life life skills are too much for me
someone cleans my house for me i can not do it
you should see it when no one cleans it-it is a hell hole
i have few friends BUT i have two wounderful pets
Patches and Crissy
I saved the two cats from the Humane society so thry love me and i love them
i do have a great psychatrist(MATOS) and a great therapist (DAVID) and a good support group theraPIST(THELMA)
i see my psychatrist once a month
i see my therapist one or two times a week
i go to my support group once a week
if it was not for them i would really be lost
i really am high functioning and low functioning at the same time
i function high cognitively and low in every other way
i do not knowe what to do with myself
IS THERE SOME KIND OF PROGRAM FOR SOMEONE LIKE ME SO I COULD LEARN TO FUNCTION IN BASIC WAYS SO I COULD MOVE ON TO A LIFE AND BACK INTO WHAT I HAAVE MY MASTERS IN
OR IS WHAT I AM DOING ALL I CAN DO?
BECAUSE IF IT IS ALL I CAN DO THEN IT IUS NOT ENOUGH
NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY IT IS NEVER ENOUGH
I WANT I PROGRAM I CAN BE IN
SORT OF SOUNDS LIJKE THE HOSPITIIZATION DESIRE
HELP
WHAT KIND OF PROGRAMS ARE THER FOR PEOPLE,LIKE ME
I AM WILLING TO MOVE TO BE IN A PROGRAM TO HELP ME
HELP
HELP
HELP
i want to quit and live in a hospital where people are nice and help me regulate my moods and structure my life for me
i can not do it
it is too much for me
my doctor refuses to hospitalize me
he sayes i would regress
i deal with basic issues
like bathing, brushing my teeth, sleeping, eating, trying to keep my moods and arritudes under control (so people do not call the police)
i did my laundry for the frist time in about six months this weekend-ten loads (i did it a little in between and went to the dry cleaners a little)
I WASHED MY CAR FOR THE FRIST TIME IN THREE MONTHS
i cleaned the insides of my car and took stuff out for the frist time in two years
i try to work but i lose jobs alot
i am well educated (i have a masters)BUT basic coping and life life skills are too much for me
someone cleans my house for me i can not do it
you should see it when no one cleans it-it is a hell hole
i have few friends BUT i have two wounderful pets
Patches and Crissy
I saved the two cats from the Humane society so thry love me and i love them
i do have a great psychatrist(MATOS) and a great therapist (DAVID) and a good support group theraPIST(THELMA)
i see my psychatrist once a month
i see my therapist one or two times a week
i go to my support group once a week
if it was not for them i would really be lost
i really am high functioning and low functioning at the same time
i function high cognitively and low in every other way
i do not knowe what to do with myself
IS THERE SOME KIND OF PROGRAM FOR SOMEONE LIKE ME SO I COULD LEARN TO FUNCTION IN BASIC WAYS SO I COULD MOVE ON TO A LIFE AND BACK INTO WHAT I HAAVE MY MASTERS IN
OR IS WHAT I AM DOING ALL I CAN DO?
BECAUSE IF IT IS ALL I CAN DO THEN IT IUS NOT ENOUGH
NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY IT IS NEVER ENOUGH
I WANT I PROGRAM I CAN BE IN
SORT OF SOUNDS LIJKE THE HOSPITIIZATION DESIRE
HELP
WHAT KIND OF PROGRAMS ARE THER FOR PEOPLE,LIKE ME
I AM WILLING TO MOVE TO BE IN A PROGRAM TO HELP ME
HELP
HELP
HELP
Doctor's Answer
by HFHS.MD-AJ, Nov 23, 1999 12:00AM
Karen,
It must be frustrating to deal with the difficulties you describe. Hospitalization is usually a last line of treatment for people who pose a significant danger to themselves or others, or who are completely unable to attend to any activities of daily living (eating, bathing, etc), such that they endanger their life. It would appear that other forms of treatment are available to you, and I would agree with your psychiatrist that hospitalizing you without any clear reasons or goals may cause you to regress. I encourage you to discuss your concerns further with your therapist and psychiatrist, and to consider referral for vocational rehabilitation, which may help with determining what kinds of jobs suit you best.
It must be frustrating to deal with the difficulties you describe. Hospitalization is usually a last line of treatment for people who pose a significant danger to themselves or others, or who are completely unable to attend to any activities of daily living (eating, bathing, etc), such that they endanger their life. It would appear that other forms of treatment are available to you, and I would agree with your psychiatrist that hospitalizing you without any clear reasons or goals may cause you to regress. I encourage you to discuss your concerns further with your therapist and psychiatrist, and to consider referral for vocational rehabilitation, which may help with determining what kinds of jobs suit you best.
Okay, yes, you are having trouble. I won't say you're not. But you are doing okay. The cleaning binge may have been some hypomania breaking through, and if it was, hey, you still got some serious stuff taken care of.
Keep going to therapy, keep seeing your doctor. I think there is some merit to the idea that hospitalization of the sort you mention would make you regress. Is it easier? Heck, yeah. Your responsibilities are much less, and your decisions are made for you. But the goal is that you take care of yourself as much as possible, and hopefully learn to like yourself more.
Karen, you are doing ALL RIGHT! Hang in there.