Chad,
I know the post I read of yours is pretty old... like almost 9 years old, but on the long shot you still check this site, I thought I'd leave you a note. The thing with your wife not kissing you for years and that being a bit seizure-disorder related--I had a boyfriend who was taking Topamax. We had a very physical relationship at first, hugging, kissing, etc. you name it. But as soon as he started taking Topamax, he shut down completely. No kissing, no snuggling, no touching. He would move away from me very quickly if I so much as touched his arm. He said once that it didn't feel good. Like the medication changed how he felt sensory things and it was uncomfortable for him to be touched in any way. I don't know where you're at in life now, but I hope things are going better. Jen