Welcome to med help. Saw your post and certainly understand how you feel. Lots of condemnattion of what parents try to do to help their children with NO strategies that would be helpful to offset their negativity. It's hard. I have a boy with sensory integration disorder. Have you tried some of the 'heavy work' that they use for that to improve focus. We've had luck with it. If you need ideas, let me know! Anyway, welcome!