Hi Kate, I am respecting Paula's request that people refrain from answering that post, agreeably so as I don't have OC. I just wanted to tell you that you wrote such a powerful post. What a gift you are giving to your kids and grandkids. My mom passed away after a lengthy bout with breast cancer and she did not do any of what you said. Oh how I wish she had! It stinks that you must even think about it and I hate that for you all. I'm so glad that you feel the empowerment that planning brings. Hugs! Lori