I came upon this site when I was looking for answers to my ugly vagina. This post caught my eye and I just couldn't believe it when I read your response. I went through the same exact thing. Its as though I had written the response. The itching as a child, it becoming gradually bigger. The worst part is I'm constantly bombarded by the ideal vagina, "small, pink, with tiny labia minora". Its so frustrating to know that my vagina is considered ugly. I'm 100% self conscious about it and I've had such a hard time with it I've even considered labiaplasty. Anyway, none of my friends have this problem and its nice to know I'm not alone.
I found this site because I was looking for answers to my vagina "problems". What you describe is EXACTLY what I went through (the itching, the rubbing, the masterbastion, EVERYTHING). I didn't really speak up either and now I'm 100% self conscious about it! It depresses me to look at it because its a reminder of how "ugly" I am down there. I've seriously contemplated labiaplasty.