Angie - have you thought about getting your granddaughter evaluated by a behavioral neurologist? The assessment will show where your granddaughter falls within the spectrum, what are her strengths and what are her weaknesses. Although she appears very outgoing, her social behaviors can seem aggressive to others in that it is an invasion of personal space or seeming too pushy. This aspect falls within Asperger's as far as social cues and appropriate vs. inappropriate social behavior.