Part 4 of 4
After 48 hours, my father left me a phone message demanding to know my intentions b/c he and my mother had to make plans. By this time, I was even more devastated by the constant mental and verbal abuse my mother inflicted upon me, as well as my father's constant enabling and willingness to contribute to the abuse. I didn't return the call. I tried to get my brother (my mom's favorite child) to go, but he said he was too busy--as usual! My sister agreed to go just b/c she realized how devastated I was, but my dad told her he already had someone lined up to take him. He then called me and left another cruel blamingmessage. He ended by saying that he wasn't listening to anymore fusing and demanding, "Do you hear me?"
Part 3 of 4
My father has to have heart valve replacement surgery this week. I made plans to take them to Ohio, but my husband and I wanted to secure our own hotel room. My mother went into a rage; even after we begged for her forgiveness and made reservations to room with her, she continued to rage on. She screamed and yelled at my husband and called him names. My dad condoned this behavior and was willing to forgo the surgery to appease my mother. Before living his house, I begged him to allow my husband and me to take him to Ohio. He refused to respond.
Part 2 of 3
My mother controls my life, and I hate it! She even gets my father to defend her verbal abuse and blame me for everything, though privately he tells my sister that he feels sorry for me. He is why I have held on all these years. I longed for a father who loved me, especially since my mother couldn't love all three of her children. My mother couldn't even love my child. She favors two of her five grandchildren; and one grandchild is favored most. My father plays right into this. They even treat two boys who attend their church like their grandchildren.
Wow, reading your post was like reading my life. I am the middle child of three. My mother physically, mentally, and verbally abused me throughout my childhood; and she continues to mentally and verbally abuse me. My siblings use to participate in the abuse: They laid on me and held me down while she beat me; and as adults they defended her and made jokes about me deserving my beatings. (part 1 of 2)