...ok. Coverd them all in the last note. Hope you have a wonderful day and God Bless!
..."hide in a relationship" are great phrases. These are things a T would offer. Maybe you'll write someday. Your story/brief history is as touching, as dramatic and honest as the one I'm reading now. I agree. Getting to know one's self is the best thing we all can do. I hope once the addictions are gone from all of us, whether they be drugs or ideations we become more of ourselves and lead less destructive lives and lives worth living. I'll look at the last two notes you sent now.
Thanks for your honest and clear thinking. I'm reading "get me out of here" and am learning much about human nature & the therapeautic process. Acting out is one of faves in the book. This T won't discuss his client's problems until the adult shows up at the therapy session. Everyday is an opportunity to love ourselves. Every moment therein lies one more. When I notice the anxiety of separation from my ex taking hold I know I need to manage it towards a safe shoal. It work for sure but I know I will settle into a loving place for her no matter what has happened. I choose to love before anything else. Me first then others. It's when I don't love myself that I act out and get lost in the separation anxiety. When I fill my love tank then I can fill other's. "drama & adrenaline...(cont.)
Dawn: Thanks and hugs back. Your insights are pearls of wisdom! Please publish. 1) I'm starting to think you are either a therapist-good-samaritan offering advice to this community 2) a non-borderline or 3) you have done a tremendous amount of work on yourself (as you have stated). :) It's all complimenatry in any case ! "How do you or you think any borderline can consistently hold the love of family and friends within themselves?" Please, only answer if you can. If it is too painful my sincerest apologies. My ex's abandonment issues overrode the love anyone had for her. By the way, I recall clearly the intentions she would ascribe to my words and actions. She intuitively would use the same thought process as you to separate my words from my intentions...until stressed.