A few things, in the toilet paper section in the super market there are "wipes" by a package of the throw flush away kind... use them each time you go, much less fuss...
Try laying off milk for awhile, and if you love milk use soy.... still could happen, but I lived 5 years like that and when I gave up milky things I was fine....
Thanks for sharing your experiences. I am going through a similar thing now. I am awaiting my colonoscopy/endoscopy results. For about 5 years (yes, 5 years), I have been having soft stools. It is very inconvenient, especially when I go walking, which I like to do often. "Stuff" leaks out, and, you can imagine the discomfort and also pain when it causes a rash...I spend many an evening washing out my undies. I am female, 50 yrs., relatively healthy; eat relatively good, most of the time. Since your postings were about 3 years ago, I wondered if you have had any sort of diagnosis yet? or any relief?