I'm looking on then internet for what I can do about the pain and redness.. it even hurts to sit right now.
One thing (the only one) from your list that I also have used is KY warming gel. I hate it because it stings, but haven't used it for aa few weeks, and this is a current problem. Just thought I'd mention that particular possible problem-causer we have in common.as something that definitely irritates my "private parts" My doctor recently said "fissures" and atrophy so am currently using large quantities of estrogen cream. I don't feel its helping much.
Good luck with your situation. If you figure out any clues, I hope you'll post them for the rest of us! ***@****