Attention from boy

[Lovemykids63]

My 13 year old daughter has ADHD. I have noticed that her need for attention from boys is growing at an alarming rate. That is all she is concerned with. She has friends but loses them is they like someone she likes. She always likes someone and feels she owns them. I have noticed she has always been drawn to boys since she was 3 years old. But lately this obsession is becoming more paramount in her life. Is this a teen problem or does her ADHD exasperate the situation. Please any advice will be helpful, I am so concerned about her.

[agracyk]

my step daughters  are like that  but my kid is not    my step daughter are 17  16  13
17 year old was having sex and 13 no ADHD
16 year old the same with ADHD
13 year old was have sex when she was 11 and was letting boys  run the train on her
she has ADHD
they live with their mom
my daughter is 11 with ADHD and she like boys but that part is normal (like so and so is cute or talks about them) i try to teach her to respect  her self  ...  if a girl respect and love her self and gets positive attention at home then she will not seek negative attention (sex)from boys
if a boy asks for something like sex and he is like i love you and tells thing a girl wants to hear if you daughter respects and loves her self and get positive attention at home  she would know that if this boy loved her he would not be asking her that  


i talk with my daughter about if a boy tells you he loves you for sex is does not love you if he did he would not ask for it and i ask her about boys (like so who do you think is cute in school) so i know what to watch for and she is about to build a bond with you so that if something every happens (like a boy asking her if sex) she can tell you with out you yelling at her and trust you to give the good answer and advice

i hope this helps

[Lovemykids63]

Thanks, I do talk to my daughter until I am blue in the face. I am just hoping she hears me loud and clear. I actually tell her the same exact thing you do.Best of Luck!!

[Spooty]

This behaviour is not caused by ADD, I have 2 daughters both with ADD and so do I,  I have always educated my girls regarding boys and sex.  unfortunately young girls can be easily led astray and will beleive anything young guys will tell them.  I have been open with my girls and educated them on contraception, STD'S AIDS pregnancy etc agree with agracyk some young girls try to grow up way to fast, I also kept my girls busy apart from school they had sports and my daughters also had a horse they were way to busy to think about boys.  Some parents also give their kids way to much freedom at this age At 13 my daughters were not allowed out roaming at night, I took them to their friends houses and i was there to pick them up, I made sure I knew where they were who they were with and the deadline for being collected, if they breached our trust there were consequences.  I now have 2 girls age 16 and 18 that are responsible, I know my 18 yr old is sexually active as I have a close relationship whre she told me and talked to me about it. but I know she is responsible and protects herself.  your daughter also sounds like she is looking for affection and acceptance, I can see that you are a single mother, do your girls have contact with their father? and how did they take you separating, it is amazing how this can affect a young girls behaviour. I myself did the same thing, I was very promiscous as a teenager but that was because I was sexually abused as a child and I believed that was how I gor a boy to like me.
good luck