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Caught my 6 year old starting a fire in her bedroom!

'm at a loss here! I need some advice! My 6 year old daughter was diagnosed with ADHD and OCD a couple years ago. I was raised in a time when those disorders were considered to be just an excuse for rotten kids. I never wanted to go against her doctors orders, so I have always done what they have asked of me, and I allowed the medications. She seemed to be doing great up until here recently. Last week, her teacher sent a note home stating that she was being disruptive in class and calling other children inappropriate names. Then, this morning, I smelled smoke & found her in her room with two lighters starting a fire in her floor. She actually burned her 4 year old brother's finger! He was so scared that he wouldn't tell me!
Do I punish her? Do I call her doctor? Please help!!!
I need advice! All is welcome! Thanks in advance.
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    First, her meds probably are not working in the morning.  Depending on the med it can take from 20 to 60 minutes to began working.
   Kids with ADHD and not on meds do things without thinking.   Find a lighter, play with it, without thinking twice about it.  And, obviously, there is no way a lighter should be accessible to her or any of your kids!
  To punish a child with ADHD who did something without thinking is a waste of time, because they still won't think twice the second time (at least not till they are a lot older).  And by  now the punishment or your attempt to change the behavior is too late.  Any attempts at punishment or behavioral change has to be immediate (and consistent).
   I think that at least until she is somewhat older you will have to keep an eye on her.
   The school thing could have just been a bad day for her.  Kids got her ticked off or something and the teacher was just  reporting what happened.
Or it could be that her meds are wearing off or she has gotten used to them.   In which case you need to talk with her doctor.  Its an easy thing to fix.  And, he could also possible make sure they last a bit longer in the day.
  The thing that YOU need to do is to make sure that you understand how ADHD works and how it effects kids.  It really involves more than just taking a pill.  Your questions show that for at least some part of the condition of your child, someone has not given you much information.
   I suggest you buy the book, "The ADD/ ADHD Answer book," by Susan Ashley.  Its about $10 on Amazon.  It will help you a lot!!!!  It also will give you good ideas on discipline, how to help the schools help her, etc.
   And, if you have any more questions, please don't hesitate to post.  Best wishes.
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Thank you! & you're absolutely right, I've not been given much information on her condition.  I'm lost when it comes to what to do most of the times. I just love her to pieces and pray for the best, and I know that's not the best way... that's why I'm trying to understand this more.
-She is an adopted daughter. I know nothing of her biological mother, and little of her biological father.
& the deal with the lighters; we keep them on top of our refrigerator. I had no idea she even knew where they were, but obviously she pays more attention to me than what I had thought.
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    Sounds like she could be a pretty smart little kid also.  The link to this site is one that I think you also will find helpful.  Its got a lot of very practical ideas.
The site is http://www.additudemag.com/topic/parenting-adhd-children/parenting-tips.html
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   Just noticed that the link given above may not take you exactly to what I had in mind.  So go the sub section Parenting Skills under Parenting ADHD Children and you will see lots of good ideas.
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