My 3yrs old behaviour issues

[shkolla]

I have a 3yrs old daughter who has just started the nursery. We are not from UK and we came here two years ago. Anyway, when I registered my daughter at the nursery ( the hours that she is entitled to ) I asked the nursery staff If I should teach her some english and they all said NO. So she knows no english. They have loads of toys in the nursery and when I leave her she doesnt cry which to my knowledge means that she is settling well. However, she likes to play in the water ( they have a water tank inside the classroom and she plays there) and gets wet and they have to change her. They ask her not to pour water but they said she'll go off it for 10 minutes and she'll be back again doing the same. They said to me that it is very time-consuming. Another thing is that they think she has poor eye contact but to me that never occured becasue she does have eye contact with me and the people that she feels she knows, she is just so weary of people she doesnt really know and then becomes either very clingy to me or she looks elsewhere. The head teacher said that we call her by her name and she doesnt respond - she said we try to talk body language with her and she understands but she still does her own thing. The water thing is really getting to much for the teachers they removed the water tank but she went and played in the bathroom sink and afetr that she was pouring water from one cup to another and then got wet again.
the things that she does when she is with me are all fine, she speaks fast and quite a lot, when she wants smth she asks, when I ask her to stop doing smth like she likes jumping and is very balanced when she does that she stops, she sings the entire sing along songs in english, she has picked up about 10 words in english since she started the nursery, she sleeps and eat ( by herself) very well, not keen on sweets just normal low salted food, vegetables and meat and bakery and loads of fresh orange juice, she plays with her toys and she actually talks when she is playing, she has got a great memory retention she remembers past times so well, and when on holidays she doesnt get out of the water. she likes to walk, and she really takes instructions from me, she is not violent and she doesnt like it when she is shouted at....she can hold the grudge up to 10 days and she is quite stubborn !!!!!!
now my worry is that in the nursery - she either feels lost becasue she knows zero english or she is not getting enough attention ( she doesnt mind being left to play ). I say this becasue in the nursery they have 35 children in one class and 3 to 5 teachers.
Anyway - the nursery recones that because she doesnt follow their instructions and that  with some of the staff she has little eye contact she has behavioural issues and Im dead worried becasue I was with 24 hrs and she was fine. I do not know what to do and what measures to take. Please help.......

[shkolla]

Thank you so much, it really helps to get other opinions....and of course it settles and easies my anxiety ! I agree that they do not enough attention to her at all - and yes one of actually said herself that we have not had time to really try to teach her any english and I was absolutely FUMING but I kept calm and said you better do from now on ( even though Im a foreigner in UK I pay all the taxes as we have no recourse to public funds ) so I guess I earn the right to tell them that Im not a push over !  Thank you so much for your help !

[mooksmom]

Just some thoughts from an outside looking in. If I was a child put into daycare where people spoke to me in a language I didn't speak, I'd probably find a way to self-stimulate, like playing in water, too. If I didn't understand them telling me not to play in the water, I'd continue to do that.
If she does all those things in her native language that you say, I'd maybe find a different daycare 1st. If you are going to live in the USA, she HAS to be bilingual and now is the easiest time to teach her. It will only enhance her future! I know nothing bad that comes from being bilingual.
I get the feeling, from what you post, that the daycare just can't pay her enough attention with little English...their LOSS. Hope this helps settle your anxiety.