Possibility my son has adhd

[kelly831979]

My 7yr old son is currently recieving psychology support with various behavioural issues which are effecting his home life, scooling and social life. His psychologist has recently began discussing ADHD as a possible diagnosis. I know very little about ADHD and have been reading up, trying to find out as much info as possible. I am finding that most of the sympyoms i have read about are present in my son, however, one of his biggest problems has not been mentioned. He spends his days mainly trying to wind other people up  to get a reaction- not to a "normal" level but excessively! Me, hiss dad, his sister, other children, teachers....everyone and anyone! Family and friends find this very difficult to cope with and have at times avoided visiting because of it. He has got himself into trouble at school because of this with his piers (he tends not to have any consistent friendships) and, very worryingly, with children a lot older than him!! He never learns from past experiences, no matter how bad the result has been. Its almost like he cannot stop himself. Does this sound like it could be a behaviour relating to ADHD? As i said he does display many symptoms of adhd...disorganised, forgetfull, temper tantrums, easily distracted, struggles at school, is diruptive in class, clumsy, fidgety etc.... but i do feel that this innapropriate behaviour towards others is the thing that is causing misery in all our lives at the moment...my son included!

[Sandman2]

   I think a very good question to ask yourself is, "what happens after he winds people up and gets a reaction."?  Kids who do things for a reaction, will stop doing what they are doing once they get that reaction - be it positive or negative.  If a child keeps doing things to cause a reaction, then the possibility must exist that they can't help or control their actions.
  If you go through the posts on this forum from other parents, you will see that their children get reactions from all around them.  Its one part of the symptoms.  Kids with ADHD (more so with young kids) don't have  the filters to discern right and wrong.  They just do it - and many times are very sorry afterward (at least until they give up on themselves).  And then they do it again and again.   His inappropriate behavior is extremely typical.  Note, there are a few other things that could also cause this behavior.  But ADHD is certainly a possibility.    And yes, if you read lots of the other posts - misery is a common denominator for all involved.  I think the most misery winds up on the child if those around him don't understand what he is going through.
  So, listen to your psyc.  This is something you all need to figure out for the sake of your son.  It may take a little trial and error work.  It will certainly take more effort on your part then his (for the time being).  Keep researching ADHD.  There are good books on the subject.  There are also books on how to work with your child if he has ADHD.  Keep us posted.  Ask questions.    Good Luck !!!!

[allmymarbles]

Before committing your child to a drug regimen, look to see what might be causing his behavior. Is he on a heavy sugar diet? Sugar is an irritant and makes children hyper. Also are you unwittingly reinforcing the tantrums (without realizing it of course). Sometimes parents become so exhausted with children's demands that they give in to them. That actually encourages tantrums. Then too, have you tried not reacting to his behavior? Does he have a good, balanced diet, without junk food?

All of these areas should be examined before putting you your son on drugs, because these drugs can have serious side effects. Most of them are a form of speed. Check out the side effects.

[Sandman2]

And - on the off chance - that his behavior is not your fault, but an actual medical disability, he may need a medical cure.  Never the less, there are a lot of things that can be done non-medically to help him even if he has ADHD (if he has it).  Do take the time and effort to look into all the alternatives.

[BL09]

My nephew have been diagnose with ADD and evolucionated to the ADHD it was hard for him to go to sleep.. lost of appetite.. not able to work at school was at a special class with 5 teachers at pre k-, his dr sent prescription drugs like konzerta.. it did work for a while and then he started having problems at school again.. he is 6 years old now was diagnosed at age of 5 they double up the dose but it made it worst.. so now his dr talked with a psyc and he said to give him blood pressure pills.. and its working pretty good.. of course he is not perfect but is whole lot better.. now he can work and concentrate at school, sleep the whole night, eats a lot now.. we get  good notes from his teacher we took every caffeine and sugar off of his diet.. he is a lot better
I think every kid is different and this drugs are not going to have the same effect in every kid which mean the amount of side effects that they have so we just pray that this is going to work for him!! We were against the drugs but he just couldnt do any work at school so we decided it was the best for him..

[Sandman2]

  I am glad to hear the meds are working and really glad his doctor talked to a psyc.  Many times they are much more able to handle situations like this than a GP.
  Please remember that the meds are just one part of him getting help.  Communication by you with his school and doctor are really important.  Even more important is that you get some training in how to work and help him deal with ADHD.  The meds by themself are not enough for him to really achieve his full potential.  Good Luck