Problems w mid aged man who acts like a boy

[sgoldie]

I live w bf's 36yr old son, an only child whose mother is deceased and who makes our lives miserable by causing constant messes and disorder at home that makes you want to strangle him.

He can concentrate enough to get a degree but mindlessly never closes doors to the outside, kitchen cabinets, bathroom cabinets. Leaves tools and his dirty clothes all over the place in the yard, especially if they are in your way. Fights not to have to go out in the world on his own. Hears voices. Has no friends or life. Never been able to hold a job for more than a month, always excuses. Tries to live our lives and not his own. Instantly backtracks on decisions. He is well mannered otherwise and competent w complex chores.

Is this passive-agressvie meaness, a call for attention, manipulation, or Adult ADD? (no hyperactivity)

[specialmom]

Sounds like a good plan sgoldie.  Yes, he sounds like he has some mental health issues among other things and that is for he and his dad to figure out.  good luck

[sgoldie]

I have moved out so answers no longer necessary.