help!!

[adhdparent]

My 8 year old son was diagnosed with adhd 3 years ago, after extensive charting, couseling, and testing. He takes concerta once a day and he does well with it. He however doesn't act up as much at his father's every other weekend and his dad is in denial about his son's adhd and he refuses to help me with discipline. He thinks that i should not take things away from him if he is miss behaving. whenever my son goes there, i have to start discipline all over again. Now my son does not sleep at night and his father says that he is just being a whus or a whiner and is afraid to go to sleep by him self. He doesn't understand that it is part of his son's anxiety. Iwant to take his parental rights away but, i don't know if i should. any suggestions?

[LRM1021]

Its hard to take away someone's parental rights. You have to be able to prove that your son's father is a detriment to your son. Having a difference of opinion in terms of discipline is rarely going to stand up in court as being detrimental, unless your son's doctors can provide ample evidence that failure to provide the same type of discipline will be damaging to your son. If your son's father continues to give him medications on the weekends then it will be even harder to take away his rights-- because he is complying with medical advice for your child. But if he fails to give him the medication, that could be additional grounds for you-- because he is failing to provide your child with prescribed medical treatment.
So, my suggestion would be to document very clearly -- first for you, and then for an attorney -- what the exact damage is that you think your son's father is doing. Then, for each bullet point of damage, think about how you would prove this damage-- drs reports, some other type of evidence. If the argument seems strong to you that your son is being hurt, then you could pursue it.