i need your opinions

[mandy876]

i know someone wjos a year old boy.  very goodchild.  his moms boyfriend punishes him by making him stand in the corner with his knees bent and his forefingers and arms straight out with a pencil between the point on one end and the eraser on the other.  hee says it hurst really bad.  is this abuse or am i old fashioned and love him and dont wantt him abused.  please let me know what yu think.   mandy876

[mandy876]

  thanks for the answer.  she came up here because we had to oldest boy for the summer.  he did not want to leave so he is enrolled in the school across the street from me.  he is so happy here,  but he still loves his dad.  the baby came up with the mama and she found out when she got here she is pregnant.  it is a girl.  I dont think he believed her and he broke up.  we went down to get oldest boys clothes for school.  he saw she was pregnant now he wants back she had already filed fir custody of the kids.  the only reason he is being so nice he wants the baby' and she will drop the charges.  he has been dating some one else.  she knows it was said he has not gone out with anyone. sorry just get upset about the way he uses her. she will probably read this she is on here to. don't know what name she is using,   mandy876

[RockRose]

God bless you.  I hope you're doing okay now.  

[xxxc123]

1-800-4 a child!!!!!!
  Call child protection services now!!!!!!!!  I was abused neglected and molested then the state took the last 4 of my moms 14 children.  Im number 12 so I spent a majority of my time in foster homes.  It was much better than the monster parents.  If you don't report this u are JUST AS RESPONCIBLE

[sophylove1]

its abuse sounds sickening
taking away a babys innocence.

he is abusing him physically and mantally
i dont think even prison has such treatment to grown men
maybe he should be used as a slave since he seems to like it.

[mandy876]

when my niece went home with her boys one 7 one 1  when she got to her apartment  they were having a party and everyone was standing around their porch smoking pot.  the apartment owner tld them their  lease would nit be renewed and they are evicted.  they found out the drugmaddic lived there.  she said  when she got home someone was passed out on the steps and she couldnt get by witth the kids.  she was soo mad.  she called her mom  crying she does nor know what to do.  she told her dont ask me to be your baby sitter,  i thought that was kind of mean.  they di tire you out but i am 20 years older than her.  when they left i layed down and didnot wake u until the pjone range about 11;-00am.  i was so tired.  but i love them so much. it might not  sound  like it but she moved away from us we raised the 7 year old the first 5 years of his life.  i loved it.she heard him and his girl friend was moving to houston.  she decided to go to houston to live with her sister.  not for long she  chased after him until she got pregnant he never that we know if had a child of his own,  lots of girl friends. mandy876  if things dont improve her mom and i was talking we need to do something.

[kenneltech2]

Always believe the child, because they have no voice except the one person who gets involved.  Since all this is going on, I would just call the cops and tell them to do a welfare check on the child because of what you heard and that you heard that the brother was an addict.  You can't say anything for sure because you don't know, but at least you will get their attention to watch them and the little one.  Poor thing.

[mandy876]

you are probably i only have the word of the child.  i am 73 they are the only family i still have i got disowned when i refused to put my mom in a nursing home because she had alzeimers. i did fine without any help hospice was there thank goodness.  she is seriously thinking about leaving him.  she is tired of getting no attention and his drug addict brother moved in with them and they already have cps on them.  the brother is trying to break them up.  

[kenneltech2]

Oh, it doesn't matter if he's the real father or if the boy is 1 or 7, the fact is, he's being abused.  If the mother is stupid enough to let somebody abuse her children, then it's up to you to call in child protective services whether she wants you to or not.  Hell, don't even tell her your calling.  SOMEBODY has to be a voice for these little ones, they cannot defend themselves, and you knowing what is going on makes you as bad as they are.

[mandy876]

we talked about that to i told her logan is a very smart boy and he will realize that he has a different name than his dad.  he will start asking questions.  she will tell him the truth that his birth dad is in prison this time for the rest of his life.  and has been in and out of prison all his life.  he was charged with child abuse.  he had a young boy when jessica was at her lowest.  but she is now off drugs and doesnt drink unless they go out to parties with their friends. no drugs just drinks.  of course all their friends are here.  she says every week end that he goes out with his brother to gun shows and  she is not welcome.  she said their lives are changing.  they never do anything together any more.  she is so tired of just being the maid cook and baby sitter.  she said she will probably never marry again.  she said she doesnt like all the work she has to do with no help.  she will change her mind.  she is pretty and has her life in order.  they leave tomorrow night she said she is staying away for as long as she can. logan has to go to school  monday.  mandy876

[mandy876]

it is soconfusing one day she is leaving him.  the next day she is madly in lovewith him.  i just had a talk with her her and the kids came up for the weekend.  everyone had gone to sleep.  she said she knows she cant living this way.  she knows she will always love him.  but they lives are going in difference he nevr does anything anymore.  he only care about guns and knives.  his brother and him go camping on the weekend,  she said if his brother does not get a job 4/14  she is coming back here she has 2 different job offers.  she wants tto get a place of her own.  and we will be close and her friends will be here if she needs us.  tomorrow might be different.  mandy876

[Nighthawk61]

It is SO frustrating and such a sad state of affairs when women will only leave their abusive partner if child services gets involved... I understand why you wouldn't think you would be able to suggest Medhelp to these girls, as you've opened up here concerning their bad behavior towards you. The fact is that you've said nothing untrue, and the things you say here, it would do them both good to hear, It would help to make them better people. With that in mind, if I was at your age, and holding the Ace of Hearts, I might share Medhelp with them, so that they could benefit from others views, and maybe be able to leave this man. But, my number one concern is that YOU have Medhelp as a life line my friend.

All you can do is be the voice of reason, that one light in the dark, that does not fall for his charm, and does not forget that he treats these two boys and their mother so poorly. Having someone consistently tell her that she deserves more is going to stay with her throughout the bad times with this jerk, and may be the just the thing that helps lift her up to leave.

Logan is always going to remember you Cha Cha as one of the most cherished and beautiful people he's ever known. He'll always know you are watching over him. This connection that you have with this little guy is SO important in the grand scheme of his life. Logan's love for you may be the thing that has him choose to love women, rather than hurt them. I just wish that his mother cared more about him. I'll say a prayer for them honey.

Peace

[mandy876]

we raised him for the first 5 years of his life.she moved  him to houston she said to be with her sister.  but he  wasm there  with the girl he left her for.  she got him back and he treats them like heck. he is one of those sweet talkers.  most women fall for his mumble jumble.  she hates him and leaving him one night the next night he is the love of her life.  thank you for being so kind.  mandy876

[ROSYouralright]

I HATE this kind of stuff! You should direct the mom here so we can talk to her. I understand being abused and trapped by fear but NOTHING should scare her more than her son being hurt! Standing in the corner, to me, without all the other stuff is ENOUGH! This poor kid! Maybe you should call CPS and FORCE the mother to take a stand! A grown man that breaks a little boys arm needs his @** whooped! I'm from the south and know many people who would gladly do it! You have such a huge heart Ms. Mandy and the world is a better place bc of you!

[mandy876]

  he will not marry or give her any money.  she is kind of trapped there.  she has to get permission to get a soda pop. he is not legally anything.  he did sign the babys birth certificate.  he says he will keep the baby if they break up.  we can visit if we want to.  i asked him who would keep him while he was at work.  he said my mom.  before i thought i said but she is on drugs.  he did not say anymore.  she leaves her drugs out on the table where the kids can get intit.  she has playgirl magazines  laying out my noece went to get the kids and the oldest was looking at her stupid books,  a 7 year old should not be seeing that kind of trash.  he did not understand  why we were upset.  if i had a little girl with you would you want her to see a mans privates when she was  7 years old or younger.  i see i do understand i was not thinking about it that way.  disfunctional is putting it mildly.  mandy876

[Nighthawk61]

a mother who allows anyone to abuse her child is more guilty than the abuser, in my books.
this child is acting out because of the ways he's being raised by this guy, and then being punished on top of it
poor confused sad little boy
this guy should be shown the curb once and for all
he's ignorant and not worthy of being a step dad

[mandy876]

  he 7 year old does not know who the father is and his fssther does not know he has a son.  he is in prison again.  

[mandy876]

i messed up the boy is 7 years.  his mom is living with her boy friend . he is not the 7 yearr olds dad the boy thinks he is his dad.   i agree thank you.  wish my dad as still here.  he was a police officer.  he would not approve of that at all.  i am 73 sorry i get things messed up somthing.  i do not thin k this is right.  one time i saw him twist hos arm  to the limit and told him to settle down i yelled his name he just lookd at me.  the bouy camr and sit down by me. he ended up with a broken dont know what happend but i am sure he broke his arm. when they visit when he starts yelling at him i say how about we go in my room and play some games.  he said you savd my bu//.no one but me seems to notice. this has me so upset.  his meme lives with me and she called to see if he couldive with us for a while.  of course she said no.  when he does not come she keeps saying  you better be good or i will tell your dad.  mandy876  

[Prizefighter]

Your message is confusing.  However, if this was my boy (I am the father) and mom's boyfriend did this to him, I would whip boyfriend's a$$.  Straight up. There are ways to handle a child and this is not one of them. Boyfriend should not issuing punishment.  It should be mom or dad, not boyfriend.

[mandy876]

  mistake i should have rerread what i wrote this was the 7 year old.  he handles the 1 yearold like he is made of china. so fragile.  he treats the 7 yearr old as a punching bag,

[Nighthawk61]

what could a one year old child do to get any punishment?