Abuse at Private School

I have a 5 year old girl who was playing on the playground with her class and the other pre-k class.  Another 5 year old boy was getting her and other children to play 'family' with him ( He was sticking his hands down her pants under her underwear) He has flashed other children and told them to touch him and has even been sticking his hands up little boys butts.  When my 5 year old told me I immediately called the teacher's aid to let her know and was shocked to find out that there was already another child who had been a victim and she would now ' watch' him better.  I directly went to the principle of the school and she is trying to cover it up.  The child is in counseling but still gets to play on the playground.  He has done this and other inappropriate things to his other classmates.  We have called cps and have a lawyer but when I talked to the principle she just says that if anyone causes trouble she can expell us.  I really don't care about going there anymore so her she can threaten me all she wants.  I mentioned getting more teachers or aid to be on the playground since two obviously are not enough ( especially when they don't watch them) but she said it wasnt in the budget.  I feel that the safety of my children are not in her budget.  She doesn't want all the victims parents to talk to each other and said we are not allowed to contact any other parent of the pre-k class to tell them about this.  I am going in front of the school board on Jan 8th to talk about this and possibly knocking down a wooden playhouse and other wooden area that the children are being able to hide behind.  If anyone has any good suggestions to tell the school board please respond.  I could use all the help there is. Thank you

[heartfluttersflyawayplz]

jen never been through this with my children, but its people like you who make it a safe place for our children, thanks for standing up when others want. God Bless you and hope it all goes well for you . Barbara

[April2]

I am just horrified and disgusted with the way this school has handled all of this and how they are treating you. Good for you that you are sticking to your guns and won't be intimidated. The safety of these children should come first no matter what. I cannot believe she'd rather lose you and other parents than expell the child who is causing the problems. Unbelievable. What's this world coming to? It makes me wonder if she knows the family or if the family is very prominent in the school. It doesn't matter. It shouldn't be like this.
You said you have a lawyer. Has he advised you what should be addressed at the board meeting? It's really strange that they seem to want to sweep this under the rug. I would wonder how many other kids this kid has messed with.
Please don't let them intimidate you. They need to take this seriously. If they do nothing still after this meeting, then I would most certainly remove my child from that school. I wish you the best.

[jo929]

you are doing the right thing for these kids and the teacher ought to be fired keep in there notify all parents do them a favor there is something going on the people should know of this i would not send my kids there    keep up the good work    lots luck   jo

[socgirl]

I agree with other posters...good for you for standing up for what is right!  I am appalled....but unfortunately, not too surprised, by how this school is handling this matter.  Also, the school has absolutely no legal right (or any other right) to prevent you from speaking to other parents about this matter.  I would bet that if you threaten to go to the media...local papers, local news, etc and say that this school "looks the other way" when it comes to sexually inappropriate behaviour...they'll take it more seriously and provide more supervision on the playground, etc.  The boy who is doing this is most likely a victim of abuse himself (5 yr. olds don't just come up with this stuff)...but nevertheless, this issue needs to be brought up with his family and he should be supervised at all times, (i.e.) when on the playground he must within eye sight of teachers, etc.  Some schools do that with kids who bully and this shouldn't be considered any less serious.  good luck.

[BindyMindy]

Disgusting,absolutely disgusting,and disturbing.how could a little boy do that and not get in much trouble?I would get my lawyer down to the school Jen.

[jml1986]

As a parent of 3 children of my own, I believe that I would request that the teacher and the principle to resign. Not for the reason that the did not watch over this knowing that it is a problem, but for the fact that you were told you could not contact any of the other parents and tell them about the situation. I think that both people basically told you not to say anything so to cover up the fact that they knew about and did nothing. As an authority figure to those children, they
were putting you child in harms way and that is no way makes a strong position that they should not have children under their care.

I wish you the best at the board meeting.

[jo929]

i assume you meant the boys parents do know what he is doing if not inform them also  wouls ask them whwre he learned this if they care they will try to help and find out    lots luck   jo

[hawaiibunny7]

Your child should always be able to feel safe at school and I cant believe that they arent standing up for their students.  Do what you can.  At the very least you'll know your doing everything you can to keep your child safe and those around her.

[txsilver]

See if your state has a lawyer who specializes in suing school districts.  They can be hard to find, but they are worth the investment!

[katarina777]

I don't think this would be tolerated in a public school.  Cover-up, though, is rampant, and everywhere thanks to our great leaders, the 'Bush Administration' of way too long.

[maybebaby29]

is this public or private? definately go to the school board and bring your lawyer on that day as a witness to what you say. file charges immediately. try to get this principle put her words into writing about them expelling you for causin 'trouble'. you'll need it in court.

[AddictivePersonality212]

wohoo!! you go show them people!!