Child being hurt by stepbrother

[sandrawlf]

Hi everyone,

The situation is a bit complicated. My husband has a 12-year non biological son who tried to hurt my daughter as she was 10 months old, he also threatened to harm her several times. I confronted him in front of my husband, and he didn't even deny, but my husband covered for him and defended him.

I asked my husband to meet the boy somewhere else, and he prefered moving out. He moved to his ex wife's and "baby sits' her 2 children, and forgets to visit with our own daughter.

We haven't seen the boy for more than 2 years, but recently, my husband who still lives at his ex wife's house asked me to bring the boy back to our house and have him involved in our daughter's life, which scares me to death. I really don't care about my husband anymore, but I have been trying to keep a peaceful relationship for our child. But I do fear for my daughter's safety. What can I do legally to keep this boy away from my child?

I need to add that the boy has a violence history with little girls, he hits them and finds it extremely funny. I told my husband that he has some serious mental issues, but he refuses to help him.

Please help me, I need to protect my little girl.

Thank you all

[jo929]

there is something wrong with this boy and someone should be notified police school ect just keep the little girl away from them both, I also agree that hubby needs help or just get a divorce  luck  jo

[margypops]

I agree with what kathy said  it would be a good idea to ask for professional advice regarding this matter but there is no doubt the most important thing is that your daughter is protected.from any harm...Good Luck

[sandrawlf]

Thank you so much for your reply, I do think that my husband is mentally screwed no to be willing to protect his own daughter, and as you say, is in total denial regarding this boy!

Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to reply!

Sandra

[kathy434]

Hi.
My name is Kathy.  By all means, you are to keep this boy away from your daughter, your home, and a thousand feet away from any public place where she is at.  You are her protector, her safety, her mother who she must be able to trust is there for her.

Your husband has some serious issues of his own from what you have told.  One he would put this non-biological son in his own daughter's presence when he knows this kid wants to harm her is totally screwy thinking on Dad's part!  Two that Dad would leave home to side with the boy than to protect his daughter is another screwy behavior.  The fact that he returned to an ex-wife under these conditions is also very screwy.  Your ex-husband cannot be trusted alone with your daughter and you cannot let him take her out of your presence or he likely will put the children together and she will be harmed.  Another screwy mentality of his is that he refuses to get this boy into therapy!  This is outrageous and totally irresponsible.

This boy sounds to me to be sociopathic.  That is, he doesn't feel the victim's suffering and so he just thinks it is funny.  These people grow to be killers.  The Ted Bundy's and the like.

I would report this child and your husband to the social services dept. and if your husband won't adhere to your no contact rule regarding your daughter, I would also report him to the police.  Those two are both very unstable, obviously because your husband can't see the depth of this boys mental issues, nor does Dad care.

If you need to, and I would recommend it immediately, you are to file a petition from abuse against both father and son, which notifies them that they are not to come in the presence of you, your home, your family, your work, or within a block of you when you are out in public.  Nor would he be allowed to call you.

Those guys have got to go.....history!!!  You owe neither father or non-biological kid any rights to your daughter!  You may need to discuss this with a lawyer to make those two past history entirely.  Don't give in an inch to your ex.    Kathy