There's this guy that I know, and we used to like each other. We were really crushing on each other. He was 16 and I was 14. He would do things like hit me, punch me, trip me, kick me, etc. One time he pushed me so hard I fell over. He would also force me to do things. If he wanted me to do something that I didn't want to do he would force me to do it. He wouldn't let me leave places when I wanted to, things like that. As far as non-physical, he would do things like call me names and stuff ("you're a loser. Not really, but no seriously." as an example.) but he was really sweet too. If he thought I was upset or something he'd come over and see if I was okay. Well we've been talking again lately and I'm just worried that I'm in danger of potentially being abused. Were these signs of abuse or am I just being paranoid?
What is concerns me is that you seem unable to recognize abuse. That suggests that you grew up in an abusive environment. Normal people do not shove, hit, kick, punch, knock down or vilify the people they love - or the people they don't love for that matter.
That you should stay away from this guy is evident. However, if you don't straighten out in your head what constitutes normal behavior and what you should expect from a loving relationship, you may find yourself abused by someone just like him.
Copyright 1994-2016 MedHelp International. All rights reserved.
MedHelp is a division of Aptus Health.
This site complies with the HONcode standard for trustworthy health information.
The Content on this Site is presented in a summary fashion, and is intended to be used for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be and should not be interpreted as medical advice or a diagnosis of any health or fitness problem, condition or disease; or a recommendation for a specific test, doctor, care provider, procedure, treatment plan, product, or course of action. Med Help International, Inc. is not a medical or healthcare provider and your use of this Site does not create a doctor / patient relationship. We disclaim all responsibility for the professional qualifications and licensing of, and services provided by, any physician or other health providers posting on or otherwise referred to on this Site and/or any Third Party Site. Never disregard the medical advice of your physician or health professional, or delay in seeking such advice, because of something you read on this Site. We offer this Site AS IS and without any warranties. By using this Site you agree to the following Terms and Conditions. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your physician or 911 immediately.